Post # 1
Okay so this is complex, stick with me for a moment and I’ll try to explain 😛
When I met my fiance we were in a LDR for a while before I moved here to live with him. Here being Finland. I was living in Denmark and I’m from England. Confused yet?
So of course my family all live in England and because of scheduling and money and what not, they haven’t yet met my fiance. Anyone else in a situation anything like this??
Basically I think because they have not met him, they are just not interested in the wedding whereas his family have met me and are excited and happy for us.
Post # 3
My parents & in laws haden’t met much before the wedding since they were far apart. It was a little awkward but it worked out great!
Post # 4
I know what you mean. SO is from California but lives 2 hours from his parents. My parents are in Illinois, and I’m going to school out of the US, but I was born and raised in Illinois. My Dad is the only family member that’s met my SO so far.
I told SO that I don’t want to be engaged until we’ve at least met eachother’s families. . .hopefully that happens really soon. It’s so terribly difficult to organize such things with people taking vacations and being out of town on business whatnot.
The good thing is that our families know we’ll eventually be heading down the aisle together, so that’s a relief. I’m even more nervous because he’s Asian, and no one in his immediate family has married a white girl!
Post # 5
My family said they might visit in January to meet me fiance. Otherwise they won’t until the time of the wedding… Bleh. We can’t afford to visit them and I know at least my Dad can easily afford to come here.
But it’s nice to know I’m not the only one in long distance madness 😛
Post # 6
@finlandfairy: If your family knows of the relationship you have with your FI, I can’t see there being any real issue. Have they gotten a chance to at least speak to him on the phone? Or maybe when you and your FI are together, you could talk to your famiy via webcam?
Post # 7
My parents and my in-laws didn’t meet until the week before the (2nd) “official” wedding. My in-laws are from the Netherlands in Europe and my family is all here in California. My hubby and I had both met each others family fairly early on in the relationship but because of the distance it was much harder to get our families to meet – until they came together for the wedding. 🙂
Fortunately for me both my family and my in-laws were very much looking forward to the wedding and to meeting each other. The meeting went well and the families both like each other very much! 🙂
Post # 8
my parents only met my fi once before we got engaged, so no, they weren’t too thrilled with the news. his parents, on the other hand, live in the same city and they couldn’t have been happier. our parents won’t meet each other until the week of the wedding, which worries me a little because they’re so different (nothern versus southern!)
Post # 9
A couple I’m friends with is made up of an American guy (A) and a Japanese woman (T). They met and married in Japan while he was living there. I met them there, too, and I was lucky to be at their beautiful wedding. I was one of only a few people there from A’s side; unfortunately, not a single member of his family could afford to fly to Japan for the wedding. Before the wedding, the only time T had ever met A’s family was when the couple had visited them in America for a week just before the couple even got engaged! I think they got to visit America once more after the wedding, and then a year later, they moved to the US.
Despite the fact that the family had barely met T and hadn’t attended the wedding, and despite the significant language barrier, T and A’s family, especially his grandma, have really gotten along well. T and A’s grandma hang out all the time now. The family loves her to death. It was hard, but the family is definitely thrilled to have their new daughter.
I think once your family meets him, they’ll love him.
Post # 10
Thanks to everyone who replied. I’m hoping they will be better when they meet him. My Dad has an obvious problem with the wedding…
I haven’t heard from my family in some time. My sister hasn’t been in contact since I moved over a month ago, and my Dad hasn’t been in contact in like 3 weeks. My Dad looks at his email constantly for work and my sister has an iphone where she can see her email, like how hard is it? I would contact them but its ALWAYS me. I’ve finally had enough
Post # 11
Oh no! I’m sorry to hear your dad has an obvious problem with the wedding, why is that?
I am sure it will all work out in the end. It sounds like your family may not be as close as you FI is with his family. So naturally they are more involved/excited. And it sounds like you are a bit sick of always being the one to reach out to your family. I know that for me, my mom’s side of the family doesn’t really keep in touch but my dad’s side of the family does. All families are different so please be gentle with yourself and try not to take it personally.
Post # 12
I don’t know what my Dad’s problem is.. But his attitude makes it obvious he thinks it’s a bad idea or something.