- 5 years ago
I’ve been in a LDR for 1,5 year. We lived in the same country for 8 months prior to LDR because I got a scholarship. Back then our relationship was fun & exciting. After my program finished, i had to go back to my country & the goverment prohibit me to go back there until July 2013. We’ve been talking about getting married. Actually i was the one who tried to talk about marriage. He was mostly reluctant because he said it was still far from July 2013. But since two months ago, he’s been willing to talk about marriage. He said it was about time to talk. Our plan is to get me a Fiancee Visa so i can go back to his country & get married there.
After one year not seeing each other in person, last month he visited me in my country. It was his second time. It didn’t turn out as good as we imagine. We had arguments & frustrated each other a few times. Things changed. It was like we needed to start it all over again & get to know each other again.
He’s that kind of person who doesn’t like to comfort other people with lie. He was being upfront to me. He said he still wants to be with me. He wants to try to get me the Fiancee Visa & see if things work out between us. If it doesn’t work, he said we don’t have to be together forever. He also said that actually he’s not ready to get married. But because of our circumstances, we can’t be together unless we get married. We start working on the visa today. Also today, he told me that maybe i should buy a ring for my self (with his money). I was kinda shock. I was hoping he would go down on his knee & put a ring on my finger. But again he told me that he doesn’t wanna do that unless he’s really ready.
I love him. Being with him is what i want the most. I’ve been putting my life on hold. I gave up my other dreams just so i can be with him eventually. But i don’t think he wants me the way i do. I know that if we try, we have a chance to make it work. But I’m also afraid that he’d break my heart someday. I need advise, please.