Post # 1
Does anyone have experience with long distance premarital counseling? FI lives near Boston, I live in south-central PA and it will probably remain that way until close to the wedding. Premarital counseling is extremely important for me; I believe that it’s crucial to prepare for a marriage and not just a wedding during engagement.
Also, I would prefer more secular or not overly in-your-face Christian counseling. I want the counseling to be more about marriage prep than my discrepancies with Christianity or the traditional roles of male and female. FI and I have discussed at length our religious differences and are comfortable with them and how they apply to future kids.
A little background on the LDR:
We dated in the same city for 6 months
Did a year and 4 months long distance due to college
Lived together for a year and 9 months while finishing up college
Both graduated, got amazing starter job offers, and got engaged…in a month
We do not see the point in one of us sacrificing a great job opportunity that would kick off our careers so we are planning for one of us to transfer to the other’s location after getting about a year of experience
Post # 3
@MissBridge: You’d need to find a therapist that could do it via Skype or something similar. I know a couple that was having marital problems and wanted to get therapy from the priest who introduced them but lived in another state. The Skype sessions went well.
Who is going to marry you? Some officients offer premarital counseling or partner with someone.
Post # 4
It’s funny because I actually think doing skype counseling sessions sounds like a great idea! Maybe even better than in person sessions because I think the fact that you are physically separated would make it easier to be brutally honest With each other. our officiant is also a couples and personal relationships counselor , she’s very modern and is based out of southern nj I could give you her info perhaps she would be able to provide your counseling. She is obviously not affiliated with a religious organization and she did an amazing job for my Husbabd and I .
Post # 5
@MissBridge: We’ve done LD counseling. Initially we were going to use Skype or Oovoo, but the reception was really bad. Instead we just did conference calls. It worked great for us this way. FI & I both ordered our own copies of the book we were told to use, and we did the counseling with a couple instead of just one counselor. I personally think this is the best setup because not only do you get the perspective of people who have already gone through similar things, but with both sexes it’s less biased.
Post # 6
@MexiPino: His uncle is a pastor and will most likely be marrying us. We do not want to use him as a counselor though because he knows my fiance really well but not us as a couple. We’d rather work with someone who has less bias and if we went with him there may be reluctance to be fully honest because things from counseling could possibly get around to his family.
@MrsOrange: If you would share her contact info that would be great!
@Galang_Gyal: I really like that perspective. It sounds like it would be very enlightening. Would you be willing to share their contact info?
Post # 7
@MissBridge: http://www.rianamilne.com/ Here is her website.. As I mentioned, she performed our ceremony. If she asks how you found her tell her Jen and Mike (december wedding in AC.) good luck to you!