(Closed) LDR time ALMOST over. Seems harder. Why??

posted 7 years ago in Long Distance Relationships
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

J and I lived about a little over an hour away from each other.  Granted that’s not really far, but it’s difficult when I was going to school full-time, had parties and other variety of things to do with Kappa Delta Pi, etc.  He works and goes to school.  So, we would just see each other once or twice a week if we were lucky.  It was so easy in the beginning.  I always looked at as “now I have something to look forward to at the end of my busy week”, but then as the year or so went on, it got harder and harder to the point I would cry and just hate being home without him.  I’m sure you know that all too well.  

I really don’t have any advice how to survive except keep very busy as much as you can.  It seems to work to an extent.  

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I wasn’t exactly sure when our last two months would be, but when I knew it was getting close, I went through a multitude of emotions.  I was a) happy and b) also a little sad about losing this semi-independence I had of only taking care of myself.  I know that sounds kind of selfish, but it was a big life change to prepare for emotionally.

Leaving was, and will be, always hard.  LDR has left a stamp on us I can’t ever explain really.  Even now, if I have to go away overnight, it has this horrible connotation I can’t shake.

All I can really tell you is that you have to focus on the here and now when you’re with him.  Dwelling on when he leaves or when you leave really puts a damper on your time together & I wish that’s something we would have done less of.

Hang in there!!

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

lucky… you’re almost there!!! me and FH still have another 2 years or so. we’ve been LDR for almost a year and a half and it’s finally starting to take it’s toll. we used to be able to make it about 6 weeks without HAVING to see each other, now it’s down to like 2 before we’re both completely miserable. :[

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

You are in almost the exact same situation as I am. We’ve been together 2 1/2 years and our LDR ends in May. These last few months are so hard because it’s SO CLOSE and yet so far away. It’s like…you know it’s coming, why can’t it just BE HERE already? I’m so jaded with the LDR situation and with having to say goodbye to him every Sunday. It’s like someone repeating a joke over and over until it’s not funny anymore and it’s just plain damn annoying.

I’m trying to look at it from a positive point of view…these are the last few months of my life that I’ll be living on my own and being truly independent. I live in our house now and he’s moving in full-time in May, and from then on it’s going to be compromise, compromise, compromise as far as day-to-day living: what to make for dinner, how to decorate the house, where to hang the hand towel in the kitchen, etc. So try to enjoy your last few months of making those executive decisions! 🙂

Post # 8
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Busy bee

That is exactly how I am feeling! I am so moody! One minute I am insanely happy, the next sad/kinda confused… I just thought it was hormones or something, but I do think that the reality of us finally being together is just setting in. Weird…. But in a good way 🙂

Post # 9
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Blushing bee

I’m going through the exact same thing, I feel sadder about being so far away and we have been fighting so much this past week (we only have six weeks to go)

Post # 10
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

No advice really but I know what you mean!  Just try to keep yourself busy and try not to think too much about the future, since that’s what always seemed to upset me and make me want to skip out on the present.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I’m in the exact same place. 2 1/2 years apart and we just have till May.  Its fun to hear from a few other people in the same boat.   It is harder in some ways.  i think because before you just knew your situation was as is and you just deal with it.  Now there is a new life and fresh start just around the corner.  I find it hard to focus on anything else.  Now we have all these plans to make TOGETHER, like finding housing, and summer activities etc.  I think LDR takes a lot of focus and now there are all these new exciting plans to distract me. I’m also finding I’m more resentful of my job that kept us apart and he is less patient with school for the same reason.  Ugh, I can’t wait to get back to my life in 4 months.

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2012

The last little bit was definitely the hardest for me.  I honestly think I got a little bit depressed.  I should have been out and about, enjoying my last few months in Japan and trying to spend as much time with my friends there as a could, but instead I was coming home and Skyping with my BF immediately after work and then falling asleep ridiculously early.  Just remember that you’re almost there, and you can make it.  You’ve already made it through so much that a few more short months are nothing.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Yes , I feel the same way. We are ending the distance this summer and getting married in Sept and the wait feels like its getting longer, and to make it worse..we wont be seeing each other that much. Last time I saw him was for Christmas and now I have to wait until May maybe…

 

 

Post # 14
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Blushing bee

It has gotten so much harder on me too! I have 4 months left, and I cried for the first time this past time when he left. I don’t think it will be getting any easier. Our LDR will be ending when we get married in May.

 

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