Post # 1
For those in Long Distance Relationships — Who will move to be with whom after the wedding? and WHY??
I’m curious, since we’ve already got plans to move around like crazy after we get married. I’m moving to his town until he’s done with his masters, then we’re moving back here to China, where I’ve been living. We’ll be here for at least a few years, and then who knows?
Post # 3
I actually moved in with my FI it was completely worth it to me.
Post # 4
For now, fiance will move in with me…i have my own apartment..so that is the main reason, plus, our jobs are closer to where i live (10 min away)…but in the near future, hopefully 2-3 years, we can move out to california=)
Post # 5
I voted other because we still don’t know. The plan was always that I would move to be with him, which would be fine with me. The problem is that I have been unable to find a job in FI’s town because no one is hiring in my field. I have a good job where I live, so it’s entirely possible that we’ll still be apart after the wedding. This will, of course, break my heart, but try as I might, there hasn’t been any movement in that area. I’m stuck. Here’s hoping something good happens in the next 5 months.
Post # 6
@Soon2BeMrsC – I hope it works out for one of you to move in the coming months! I can’t imagine how hard it would be to STAY in a distance situation after the wedding.
How far apart are you two?
Post # 7
I told him I’d move with him even though I recently moved back home to NY after college (in the midwest). I absolutely love the Northeast (culture, family, weather, etc) and it will be super difficult for me to move, but I know it’s worth it. He is moving to Washington (it’s a state out west…I’ve had people ask me where it is, most people usually think I mean DC) to pursue his Civil Engineering PhD. He said he was willing to compromise, but I figured if he knew exactly where he wants to go, and the research he wants to do, then good for him because I still can’t decide what I want to do!!! It’s gonna be a long 4 years but he promised we are moving back to NY as soon as its over. Apart from that, I am taking a half pay check cut!! Oh well…
Post # 8
I didn’t move to Ireland because of him but I’ve stayed because of him. It’s not easy but I have managed life away from home pretty well and I don’t know if I’d manage life away from him as well….
I’m just waiting for the day when I can fly home once a month…after I win the lotto… :0)
Post # 9
i moved to be with my FI after ~2.5 years of long distance back and forth, while we were finishing school in 2 different cities. i moved because the job market for engineers is better in his hometown than in mine!
Post # 10
I clicked “LDR Marriage until we figure it out” because that’s what we’re doing! Granted, we figured once he got OUT of the military he’d come live with me, but before the whole stop-loss thing was lifted, we knew that he could POSSIBLY been redeployed and have to “figure it out” as we went.
BLEGH. 6 weeks left =]
Post # 11
@ejs – I hope that six weeks flies by, and that you guys are able to be together every day after that! You’re so much stronger than me, girl, I feel like you never whine about your distance, whereas I’m putting it in like every other post, haha.
Post # 12
I want to whine! Trust me! But, after 4 years, i realize it only makes me edgy and crabby and bitchy and then i walk around the house festering all day! It’s best to just not think about it so I can focus on the positive things in life.
I get to see him this week (bachelor party for a friend, so i only ‘kinda’ get to see him)…then next weekend (wedding, so i get to see him ‘kinda’ haha)….then he’s home for good around Thanksgiving.
At least now that stop-losses are stopped and he’s actually gotten approoved to get “out” at least we know, 100% sure, that he’s coming home. Now he needs a J-O-B!
Post # 13
I moved to be with him… The distance was too hard. The plan is to stay here through the wedding and then in the next few years, when the job market bounces back again, to move back north. I’m so much closer to my family than he is, and it’s been super hard to be away from them.
Post # 14
I voted that I will move to be with him, but that doesn’t exactly tell the story.
I’m from Delaware, and he’s from central London. He’s just moved up to the border of Scotland, where my new job is based, and when we’re married, I will move there to join him. So, in some ways, when all this chaos is over, we will have both moved. But he <span style=”text-decoration: underline;”>was there first…
It’s nice to know there are other people struggling through long-distance. I’m the last of my friends to get married and they all married people from around here they’d known all their lives. My friends are great, very supportive, but can’t really relate to the long-distance struggles I have.
Post # 15
We had a LDR until this past May when I graduated and moved down where he is. It’s actually where my parents live and where I went through high school, so it was an obvious decision.
Post # 16
My LDR situation was a little different. We both originally lived in the same city, and I moved to take a job with a known endpoint. The known endpoint got pushed up (to my irritation), and I moved back sooner than anticipated.