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Aww! Well look on the bright side, just this little time apart, which really will feel like it is much longer. I don't know what I would do if I had an army husband, because my FI has a day job and is home by 5. But pretty soon you won't have to worry about it anymore, and the two of you will be together all the time! Of course we will pray with you, and he will be gone and back before you know it!
Thanks so much!!!! I'm sure once he's here, we'll drive eachother nuts and wish for some time apart. lol In the grand scheme of things, 3 1/2 months is nothing compared to the 2 years we've been together and living in different cities/countries...
I TOTALLY understand where you're coming from. just having him around means a lot when you're LDR.
I remember the last time I saw DH before I KNEW (beyond the shadow of a doubt!) he was getting out of the damn Army. And it was more emotional than all the other times I've seen him off (deployment aside. Can you say hot mess?) so I TOTALLY 100% get you.
Once DH got home, he didn't drive me crazy =]. Him being unemployed got under my skin (no unemployment? yeah it blew) but once he picked up ALL the slack around the house I stopped being nutty. You'd be surprised at just how THANKFUL you are that he's home. It took me a solid couple of months to be like, "really? this is it? you're not leaving? SERIOUSLY?!?!?!"
It's pretty cool =]
Actually, ejs, I was totally thinking about you the other day. I remember when your DH finally moved back to your home and I was like, "Not too much longer and that will be me!" lol DH has been so wonderful at job hunting in his spare time. Even though he has several more months, he's been sending resumes out, so that makes me so happy. I think I'm just a teeny bit worried about the living situation. I have a tiny apartment and I LIKE MY SPACE. hahaha But, we plan on buying a house next spring, so if I can just grin and bear it for a few months, we'll do find. Plus, I'll just be SOOOO excited to have him home, I don't think I'll mind us living in a small space.
I think I'll be pinching myself when he's here just to make sure it's real. I kind of laugh at the thought that we'll have to be married for atleast 3 years until we've officially been in eachother's presence for as long as we've been apart...that is if he doesn't get deployed...grrrr...his national guard unit is supposed to deploy in 2011. He'll have 12 months of stabilization (from Oct. 24th) until he's eligible to deploy. At that point, he'll only have 6 more months in the guard, so we just dont' know...ah, the joy.
It takes a little time to get used to, I'm not gonna lie to you. You're so used to living alone and then all of a sudden there's someone stealing the remote and changing YOUR channels =]. In the big scheme of things, it really is small change compared to having him there. I watched a lot of dumb shows with him just b/c i was happy he was home.
Boo i hope he doesn't deploy. If he does, you know you can handle it. Hopefully that takes some of the anxiety away. I think worrying about him getting deployed was worse than the actual deployment =]
Also...Dh signed special paperwork to stay in the reserves but be NON deployable. You guys may want to look into that. We have a 100% guarantee he can't go overseas
I know how you feel! My husband and I were long distance for the first 2 years of our relationship.
Did you know there is a LDR board here?
Oh man...the remote stealing. Yes, he took up to that role real quick. I really didn't mind too much beings the only channel I watch to begin with is the cooking channel.
Ejs, he ended up going National Guard and luckily, he was able to get his commitment cut down to 1 1/2 years rather than 3 years. It ended up being quite fortunate because if he had gotten stuck w/ the 3 years, he definitely would have deployed. Beings he has stabilization for 1 year, we only have to worry about the 6 months.
MissAsb...I am the worst person in the world for remember to check the LDR board. I really should do that more often! Thanks for the heads up. :)
Awww I feel the same way.. It even gets to the point where I MISS him stealing the remote, or being wayyy too overhyper in the morning, little things like that.. All the little memories that wouldn't mean anything to people because they're so everyday mean so much more and I miss them so much.. Even driving in the car, or being able to kiss him goodnight, or hug him whenever I want.. It sucks, and I'll be going through my first deployment this September for 12 months.. But I was thinking today, it's been 7 months since he left for basic, and out of that, I've only seen him for less than 3 weeks of it.. We still have two months before his leave, so that'll be 9 months.. Which is only 3 months less than a year.. And even though I know communication and stuff will be so different, it can't be any worse than the communication (or intense lack thereof) that there was in basic, so thinking that way, I'm trying to stay positive about the whole deployment..
But anyways, I hope your DH doesn't get deployed again!! I'll be keeping my fingers crossed for you, and I'm so happy for you that you only have 3.5 months til he's home for good.. Really, 3.5 months is nothing :)
Oh man, 1.5 years definitely sounds better than 3 years. hopefully after a year he lucks out for those 6 months!
Oh man. I know EXACTLY how you feel. FI is in the Air Force. He was just home on recruiter's assist before going to his permanent duty station. It was the fastest 2 1/2 weeks ever (he left Monday night). I'm finishing college, so I cant move there right away. We've been LD for a year now.
The worst part is going to bed. I hate sleeping without him. :( And now, all my blankets and sheets smell like him. I've been cuddling his pillow for the past 2 nights since he left. Man.... talk about pity party.
yes.....soon ill be in your situation with the two week visit. i have a countdown clock on my computer and every 20 days that it ticks down, me and him watch a movie (sounds silly... i mean he borrows it or downloads it there and watches it on his computer and i either rent it or download it too, and we hit play at the same time and try and have the same snacks to eat, most of which i sent him) we make a lil date out of it.... we have about 50 days left and im sick with excitement, i havent seen him in 6 months....and the thing i fear most is letting him go again.... or simply passing out the first second i see him in the airport...... then like you, after he goes back it will be about 3 mos till he is back. and yes, i joke,too about him being my hubby (well,fiance) and not the armys....hahaha, even though he will still be in the guard. its hard not having them!!!
Well, I survived yet another airport goodbye. His flight was delayed, so we had a couple of more hours to spend together. I was amazed at how quickly I adjusted into him being back in Louisiana. By the next day, we had switched into our "being apart routine." Right now we're having one of our "dates"...he's watching Great White Adventure on the National Geographic channel and I'm watching one of my shows...so, no remote fighting here. Although, I might add that he "thinks" I'm watching the great white shark show too. Everytime he comments on something, I have to switch back real quick. lol Several weeks ago, we "went to the movies" together. I actually found two movies that started at the exact same time. I think he saw Iron Man 2 and I saw Letters to Juliet. We talked on our cell phones on the way to the movie and called eachother when our movies were over. It sounds goofy, but atleast it gives us some sort of normality.
awe thats cute!! im glad im not the only one who does these silly things....and by the way im laughing out loud at the fact you were watching something else and switching back....oh, precious. funny girl. im glad to hear your surviving. i sure hope i do too.... i hope i dont get irrational and super glue myself to him....lol, just kidding.....
I know how you feel, my FH works out of town alot and sometimes is out of town for months. For right now he is home and I am thrilled he is home.
hahaha...I like the superglue idea. But to keep things a little simpler and less messy, we could always try to use velcro. Just attach a piece to each of you and there ya go...better than glue. lol I know the feeling though. Last weekend he was playing paintball with all the guys in the family and even though I was there watching him, I still wanted him right next to me. I always chuckle at this because up until I met him, I was one of those girls that would freakout if I didn't have enough space. Clingy guys drove me nuts...and now I just want to be near him all of the time. He likes to tease me about it though, so I guess it all works out.
Chin up, love! I'm 9 months into a one-year separation (fiance is in the foreign service for the state department, and is on an assigment to a "danger" location), and having him leave nine months ago was super tough. But know that it DOES get easier -- you won't believe that when he leaves, but it's true! I found that having things to look forward to (a couple of visits during the year, but in your case it could be something like a skype date) really helps. And, it's totally okay to be a sad panda. You CAN do this!
@futurediplomatswife...ah those long times away can be so hard. A day after our 2nd date, he went back to Iraq for 10 months. I had no idea it was going to be 10 months, but he sent me a text saying "Seeing you in 10 months." At the time I didn't find it so funny, but now we crack up at the reaction I had. Theoretically, I should be used to these separations (being doing it for 2 years now), but the closer we get to him coming home, it seems the harder it gets....go figure. lol
My DH and I actually have webcam dates everynight. Infact, on Sundays we always watch this show on great white sharks together. Yesterday, we actually were able to go and see the same movie and the same time...it was so fun!
Thank you for the words of encouragement. It's always easier to talk about this sort of thing with people that know how it feels..
@jsdragonfly.. im from louisiana too! what part do you live? i actually just dropped my FI off at the airport yesterday and for the first time in literally in 4 years i did not cry like a big baby ALL day bc i know i'll be seeing him again in 10 days when he finally moves down here for good :) good luck to getting through the next few months but it will go by soooo quick and it will be nothing compared to the next 50 years yall will spend together! OH and i was the EXACT same way with wanting my space and hatinggg clingy guys up until my fiance. but now when hes home im perfectly fine being together 24/7! haha weird how that works eh?
I just joined this site and it is so good to see other gals going through or have gone through the same thing i have. me and FI have been doing LD for 4 loooong and rough years. but we made it! Wooo hoooo!
I wish my hubby would get out of the military. It sucks being second best. He is career though, coast guard. He is about to be assigned to the clean up effort in Louisiana and I will see him once a month if I'm lucky. I really hate the military. Baaaaaaagh rant over.
dont worry, i HATE the military too! so does my FI... and we still have 3 years in it. boooo.
I feel your pain!! 2 years, and we're still apart. I have no idea if we'll be together after the wedding (next year, so that brings us to three years). It sucks, big time. And yes, it makes the time you spend together so sweet but still! I rather have him all the time!
Isn't video chat awesome! It was such a game changer for us! We both have macs and now we have our dates--and I was watching Bridezillas last night as he was watching um, I don't even know.
The good thing is, I feel confident that we can make it through anything! Don't get me wrong, I dread his upcoming deployment, but it definitely makes us a stronger couple.
@Violet...that cracks me up. We did the same thing last night. He was watching Great White Adventure and I got bored with it so I kept switching over to Iron Chef. I guess if you look at the positive side of things, we don't have to share the remote. lol What branch is your FI in? My DH is Army. He's ETSing several weeks after his unit deploys to Afghanistan, so we managed to dodge this one. The National Guard unit he's going to is deploying in 2011, but he has 12 months of stabilization...so, we'll see. There's still a 6 month window that he could be deployed...ahhh....the nerves...
I agree with you on the confidence level. I hear about friends w/ FI's, BF's, or DH's and they'll argue or be worried about the most petty things. Being apart all of the time definitely forces you in a way to calmly work through things. I'm amazed at how resilient I've gotten in the last couple of years. The other day, the hubs called me up and said he'll be moving home a month later than expected. Obviously I was SUPER bummed, but it just kind of rolled off my shoulders.
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So, I'm sitting in my living room on my laptop as the hubs sits next to me on his. It feels so normal and wonderful. Normally I would be beyond irritated that he's playing video games, but I'm so happy just to have him near me. The last week and a half has FLOWN by. I just want to put on the brakes and not let him leave on Friday. You would think I'd be used to airport goodbyes by now, but no, I always cry like a baby. I've already cried twice today. Thankfully, the hubs is WONDEFUL with me when I'm a crying sobbing mess. I guess the bright side is, even though it will be 3 1/2 months until I get to see him again, when I see him again he will be here FOR GOOD...no more going back to play Army man...he gets to MY husband, not the Army's. hahaha...Actually, that's a lie. He'll still be in the Guard, but atleast they only get him one weekend a month.
Okay...I guess that's enough of the pitty party. Just had to write this somewhere where other gals like myself would understand.