(Closed) LDRs really stink sometimes… sad sigh :(

posted 7 years ago in Long Distance Relationships
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Aww! Well look on the bright side, just this little time apart, which really will feel like it is much longer. I don’t know what I would do if I had an army husband, because my FI has a day job and is home by 5. But pretty soon you won’t have to worry about it anymore, and the two of you will be together all the time! Of course we will pray with you, and he will be gone and back before you know it!

Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I TOTALLY understand where you’re coming from. just having him around means a lot when you’re LDR.

I remember the last time I saw DH before I KNEW (beyond the shadow of a doubt!) he was getting out of the damn Army. And it was more emotional than all the other times I’ve seen him off (deployment aside. Can you say hot mess?) so I TOTALLY 100% get you.

Once DH got home, he didn’t drive me crazy =]. Him being unemployed got under my skin (no unemployment? yeah it blew) but once he picked up ALL the slack around the house I stopped being nutty. You’d be surprised at just how THANKFUL you are that he’s home. It took me a solid couple of months to be like, “really? this is it? you’re not leaving? SERIOUSLY?!?!?!”

It’s pretty cool =]

Post # 7
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

It takes a little time to get used to, I’m not gonna lie to you. You’re so used to living alone and then all of a sudden there’s someone stealing the remote and changing YOUR channels =]. In the big scheme of things, it really is small change compared to having him there. I watched a lot of dumb shows with him just b/c i was happy he was home.

Boo i hope he doesn’t deploy. If he does, you know you can handle it. Hopefully that takes some of the anxiety away. I think worrying about him getting deployed was worse than the actual deployment =]

Also…Dh signed special paperwork to stay in the reserves but be NON deployable. You guys may want to look into that. We have a 100% guarantee he can’t go overseas

Post # 8
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18623 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I know how you feel!  My husband and I were long distance for the first 2 years of our relationship.

Did you know there is a LDR board here?

Post # 10
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246 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Awww I feel the same way.. It even gets to the point where I MISS him stealing the remote, or being wayyy too overhyper in the morning, little things like that.. All the little memories that wouldn’t mean anything to people because they’re so everyday mean so much more and I miss them so much.. Even driving in the car, or being able to kiss him goodnight, or hug him whenever I want.. It sucks, and I’ll be going through my first deployment this September for 12 months.. But I was thinking today, it’s been 7 months since he left for basic, and out of that, I’ve only seen him for less than 3 weeks of it.. We still have two months before his leave, so that’ll be 9 months.. Which is only 3 months less than a year.. And even though I know communication and stuff will be so different, it can’t be any worse than the communication (or intense lack thereof) that there was in basic, so thinking that way, I’m trying to stay positive about the whole deployment..

But anyways, I hope your DH doesn’t get deployed again!! I’ll be keeping my fingers crossed for you, and I’m so happy for you that you only have 3.5 months til he’s home for good.. Really, 3.5 months is nothing 🙂

Post # 11
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14186 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Oh man, 1.5 years definitely sounds better than 3 years. hopefully after a year he lucks out for those 6 months!

Post # 12
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Bumble Beekeeper

Oh man. I know EXACTLY how you feel. FI is in the Air Force. He was just home on recruiter’s assist before going to his permanent duty station. It was the fastest 2 1/2 weeks ever (he left Monday night). I’m finishing college, so I cant move there right away. We’ve been LD for a year now.

The worst part is going to bed. I hate sleeping without him. 🙁 And now, all my blankets and sheets smell like him. I’ve been cuddling his pillow for the past 2 nights since he left. Man…. talk about pity party.

Post # 13
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835 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

yes…..soon ill be in your situation with the two week visit. i have a countdown clock on my computer and every 20 days that it ticks down, me and him watch a movie (sounds silly… i mean he borrows it or downloads it there and watches it on his computer and i either rent it or download it too, and we hit play at the same time and try and have the same snacks to eat, most of which i sent him) we make a lil date out of it…. we have about 50 days left and im sick with excitement, i havent seen him in 6 months….and the thing i fear most is letting him go again…. or simply passing out the first second i see him in the airport…… then like you, after he goes back it will be about 3 mos till he is back. and yes, i joke,too about him being my hubby (well,fiance) and not the armys….hahaha, even though he will still be in the guard. its hard not having them!!!

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

awe thats cute!! im glad im not the only one who does these silly things….and by the way im laughing out loud at the fact you were watching something else and switching back….oh, precious. funny girl. im glad to hear your surviving. i sure hope i do too…. i hope i dont get irrational and super glue myself to him….lol, just kidding…..

Post # 16
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I know how you feel, my FH works out of town alot and sometimes is out of town for months.  For right now he is home and I am thrilled he is home.

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