Post # 1
I am new to this site and hope that I can find some help.. I am getting married Jan 22, 2011 ( yeah I am cutting it really close). We are on a really tight budget so we are having our ceremony/reception in a LDS church gym. Both of us our slightly active in the LDS religion. We are going to meet with the bishop to find out the rules etc… but I would like to start trying to find out before we meet with him what we should expect to hear are the rules of having a church wedding. What we can and cannot do… I have so many ideas of what I want, but I worry that there may be things we wont be able to do. Does anyone know ? Maybe recently got married in a church gym ???? I really would appreciate any advice/suggestions/thoughts ! Thanks !!!
Post # 3
I am not LDS, but my best friend and his family practice that religion. I read somewhere that it should be okay for you to have a wedding inside the church. A temple wedding…I’m not sure, it depends on how active you are, and other things that I’m not sure of.
I understand being on a budget. It’s difficult! You can make it very beautiful. Remember, the setting lasts for a few hours, but your commitment lasts forever. What matters is that you two are becoming a family :-).
Good luck with your big day!
Post # 4
There are a lot of rules specific to the LDS religion that you will have to ask the church about – the couple friends i’ve had that are LDS had to jump through a lot of hoops. It’s more involved than a traditional church wedding, from what I can tell. Depending on the amount of pre-marital counseling involved, i’m not entirely sure you’d be able to get married on such short notice? I know that LDS engagements are traditionally very, very short, so I could be wrong. The bishop will be able to tell you way more than us!
Post # 5
I’m not LDS, but I grew up in Idaho and knew many people that were married through the LDS church. It sounds like you are not having a temple ceremony so your timeline seems pretty realistic if the church gym is open. I’m pretty sure most of the rules are just common sense / respect of beliefs types of things, ie – no alcohol, types of music, etc. Most LDS churches have tons of decor for people to use for their receptions and I’m pretty sure that almost all of them have tables and chairs to use. Since you have such little time I would try to order the cake from a grocery store because most cake bakeries book up pretty quickly, it should be less expensive too :). I would look into using a florist through a grocery store too. I think you guys have Albertsons in Utah, and they have a great in house florist. To save some money, make up a playlist on your iPod and have someone DJ your reception because the gyms have a PA/speaker system for you to use. I hope this helps! Look into the decor the church offers because that will save you a ton of money! Good Luck 🙂
Post # 6
you should look through mrs. avocado’s posts — she had an lds wedding and might have some good info on the ceremony and requirements.
Post # 7
Hi, I am LDS and can tell you one thing you should know. You will not be allowed to have candles inside the church.
Post # 8
Since you wont be having a temple wedding you should have a lot less rules to abide by. No candles is one, and out of respect for the church you should go by a more modest dress code. If your dress is a strapless gown, consider adding a jacket or bolero for the ceremony. Depending on the church, non-active members and non members may not be allowed to witness your ceremony. Just ask specifics about limitations on dress, decorations, witnesses, and where photography is allowed.
Post # 9
Congrats on your wedding! I’m LDS and although I plan on getting married in the temple, I do have some friends who were married in the chapel by their bishop and it was really beautiful. They had flowers on each of the benches and some up by the front. What I would recommend is get married in the chapel and then have everyone go to the gym/hall for the reception. I think if you have the lights very dimmed and have white Christmas lights from donated from friends/family, it can be so beautiful! Also in lieu of candles (due to fire regulations) Michael’s craft store I think has these small faux candles that light that are actually really pretty and they can be set on all of the tables with flower petals. You could also have floating flowers in water in vases. Just some ideas. I was an event planner so feel free to email me for more detailed suggestions!