Post # 1
I am marrying into a Morman family and we met with the Bishop who is marring us to go over the ceremony details.
He went through them and I was like “When do we exchange rings?” He said after he pronounces us as husband and wife and says a little prayer and amen.
Huh? I’m worried all my non Mormon friends and family will think it’s over and start clapping and stuff. The Bishop said that we won’t kiss at that point. He said he will look at our ring bearer and say “Tyson, will you please bring the rings?’ and he may talk about what the rings symbolize and we would just exchange them in silence. Then he will say You may kiss the bride and announce us a Mr. and Mrs. _____.
Has anyone ever heard of this or seen it?
Post # 3
@luvmyDwight: I’ve never seen an LDS wedding since only Mormons in good standing can attend them. From the two couples that had an LDS wedding, they had ring ceremonies afterward for the rest of their family and friends who weren’t LDS.
Post # 4
@beekiss: LOL, well I was baptised Mormon but that’s about it. Ours is being held in a big back yard so every faith is welcome.
Post # 5
@luvmyDwight: Did your FI’s bishop/stake agree to have/officate at a wedding that wasn’t a sealing? This is very interesting because I’ve never heard of it, but it’s really progressive.
Post # 6
@Mrs.Darling: Oh yeah. We don’t even go to church but FIs dad asked for us to please use a bishop so he contacted one in what would be our “ward” neighborhood. We met with him at the church a month ago and he was great. No pressure whatsoever. I even told him that my children are Lutheran and I don’t see myself going to church for a very long time if ever! He agreed to not send any visiting teachers or missionaries to my home but asked if he could visit one in a blue moon.
Edit~ when we met with him last night he mentioned something about sealing one day in the future. I about laughed and he just laughed with me and said maybe one day very far in the future. LOL
Post # 7
I’m in Utah and I’m very familiar with the Mormon culture (I am not LDS).
When a couple marries in the temple, they do not have any ring exchange. It’s only back at the reception where they do a ring exchange – if they even choose to have rings (I know couples without rings) – and it’s more for the friends and family who weren’t allowed in the temple. A way to include them almost.
Many bishops frown upon the ring exchange after a temple wedding because they think it takes away from the sacredness of a temple ceremony. If rings are not part of the sealing then why should they be needed at all for any ceremony, is my guess.
So I can see how this carries over into a non-temple, LDS cermeony.
Your Fiance is not a practicing Mormon I take it?
Post # 8
Hey, I’m a practicing LDS woman, whose been to a couple LDS weddings, so maybe I can answer a couple of your questions.
I’ve been to two weddings performed by bishops (outside of the temple) and they both had ring exchanges just after the ceremony (the I-Dos), but it was always very clear that we weren’t supposed to stand up or clap or anything yet. I think people will probably wait until he announces you husband and wife to do anything like that, so it shouldn’t be a problem at all. I imagine your officiant/bishop would be very willing to do a run through with you so that you won’t be nervous. Good luck!
P.S. It’s very gracious of you to accomodate your Future In-Laws that way, at least you get a free officiant right?
@sienna76: I’ve never been to an LDS wedding in the temple, but a lot of family family and close friends have been married in temple sealings. For the most part they all have rings. I’ve been talking to Fiance about it, as he’s been to a few so I’ll know what to expect. Rings aren’t part of the sealing, but most people exchange them there in the room with everyone watching. You’re right that some bishops frown on ring exchanges out of the temple, but it is still fairly common. Fiance told me that after the sealing the ring exchange is pretty low key, because while the ring is a symbol (and Mormons are all about symbols), they’re not what really makes you married.
Post # 9
@sienna76: Thank you and if “practicing Mormon” means attending church then no, but he still believes his testimony to be true and served his mission when he was younger.
@MsCarabiner: Free officiant is a plus for sure!
Thank you for explaining it to me.
We did go over things last night with the bishop but I guess wedding rehearsals are unheard of. So we aren’t doing that. 🙁
I hope it all translates smoothly. I can just see my friends thinking “Wait…what? What about the rings?” LOL
Post # 10
@luvmyDwight: You’ve been given some pretty good advice/ideas on what will happen here, so I’ll only throw my 2 cents in (I’m LDS too)…you mentioned that the Bishop probably wouldn’t do a rehearsal. I would ask him again because this just may be his personal preference. I had a friend that wasn’t a member of the church, but was married by my Bishop and he held a rehearsal for them….so maybe just ask again.
Post # 11
@JsDragonfly: This is only the bishops 4th wedding and his wife is going in for a hysterectomy 4 days before the wedding. (so sad for her)
Also Future In-Laws and Fiance don’t think is nessary. 🙁