Post # 1
So many engagements. So many babies. I’m venting right now so I don’t break down right now in front of the bf. Because as much as seeing engagement after engagement and baby after baby makes me jealous a little bit, i know it’s not time for me yet.
But seriously…my college friend (who has the same name as me) just got engaged. With the perfect engagement.
My best friend’s baby shower is tomorrow. I’m so so so so so happy for her (she’s been trying to get pregnant for two years) but it’s making me feel more and more like i’m stuck in this place in my life and just want to move forward, get married, and start a family.
i know everything will happen for me when it’s supposed to happen, but it’s hard watching all my friends already enjoying the things that i’m really looking forward to.
sigh. ok i’m done venting.
Post # 3
@MissAmethyst: Aww big hugs to you!! I know exactly how you feel. It’s so tough to watch so many wonderful things happen to other people. And while you are genuinely happy for them, it’s just like you’ve been issued a great big “ouch”. I don’t know about you, but I feel like the last 6 months or hey year… has been full of engagements/weddings/pregnancies/babies. And yet, none of it has happened to me. I can name you 12 people that I know that have gotten engaged/married in the last 4 months. And one of them was on my birthday ( and she couldn’t wait to rub it in). I know this is a hard time, but just trust that your time will come when it is meant to be. PLUS who wants to get engaged when everyone is getting engaged?! Your amazing proposal will just be lost in the shuffle. Instead, when your time comes, it will stand out because 15 other people don’t have major life moments happening with you. Easier said than done, but hang in there. You think your friend had the perfect engagement? Wait until yours, that will be perfect!
Post # 4
@MissAmethyst: Vent away! I know how it felt. I was with DH for seven years before he proposed. I was literally the last of my close circle of friends to get married. Some of my friends had two kids before DH proposed. It’s more than natural to slightly envy others when you see them achieve certain milestones you want to reach especially if they are close to your own age. In the meantime, find something to distract you when you find that this is eating at you. I used to take long walks while blaring my Ipod. It destressed me and come time for the engagement, I was looking pretty good from all my walks. lol
Post # 5
@MissAmethyst: With all these great, wonderful, exciting things happening to everyone around you, just remember that once it happens for them – that’s it! it’s over! You only get engaged once, married once (unless of course circumstances are not in your favor), and you only have a first baby ONCE…That major life event won’t happen to them again…consider yourself lucky that you have so much to look forward too!
Post # 6
awwww thank you so much, you guys! i’ve just been a little down thinking about all this lately but your comments cheered me up! i know when it happens for me it will be very special and well worth the wait :]
Post # 7
I’m with you! I get annoyed at myself for feeling jealous. But, i know i have some single friends jealous of my relationship with SO, and I know some married people are jealous of their single friends and so on….
I think it’s just one of those “grass is greener” It’s always hard, but i think once we get engaged we’ll be jealous of those with “better” weddings, then we’ll be jealous of those pregnant, then those without kids and the responsibility.
As much as it can be difficult, enjoy what you have now