(Closed) leading the bf in the right jewelry direction without being too obvious ;)

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
2894 posts
Sugar bee

No story here. My guy is incapable of picking up on hints and to top it off he straight up asked me and I straight up told him. We’ve had so much trouble finding something we like we spent months trying to find someone to custom make a piece for us. I got kicked out of the planning at the very last minute and I now don’t know what the jeweler is making. I can hazard guesses but they’d only be guesses.:)

Is your guy the type that will remember little details like that? Or is he the type that needs it to be laid out in black and white for him?

Post # 4
903 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

My hinting was not quite as ninja-like yours but I also did not want to go into stores and try on rings with Fiance. I wanted him to pick out something himself, but he and I both wanted him to at least have a direction to move in. For months before we got engaged, whenever we walked by a jewelry store window he would say, “So which ones are your favorites?” and I would point them out and then we’d move on as if nothing had happened. So we both knew what was going on but basically pretended it was normal to look in every jewelry store window and pick out which engagement rings are the best, haha. But it worked, because he proposed in January with a ring I LOVE (simple, like you want) and it was still a total surprise!

Post # 5
1903 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Actually my SO was the one who was most direct about where he will be buying the ring from, he didn’t want to purchase from a mainstream jeweller but a local designer one. So don’t lose hope on your guy, they can also make good choices on their own back!

I would perhaps not do things so discretely, just say you like the look of the sparkle in the jewellers you like, you’ve heard good reviews, good quality and service etc. He should listen even if you think he isn’t picking up on your hints 🙂

Post # 7
347 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Hehehe.  Sneaky, I like it. 

Post # 8
4478 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

ooo – Clever girl!


Well, my bf is a wonderful, sweet, man.  Who doesn’t know much about jewelry.  In the 2 1/2 years we’ve been together, he’s gotten me some wonderful gifts.  He’s come a long way since the oversized t-shirt I got for our 1 year anniversary.  We were talking about rings one night, and he showed me a ring he liked – totally not my style, not remotely my style.  One of my least favorite styles of ring.  So I’ve sent him links and specs of the rings I’d like since.  I have something specific in mind, bezel, channel set, palladium, and moissanite.  He wouldn’t know to look into moissanite, especially not the Mira enhancement, wouldn’t know that people can be nickel sensitive, white gold needs replating, palladium vs. platinum, the 4 C’s, etc.  So I’m very unapologetic about sending him this stuff.  Wink

Post # 9
573 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I made a Pinterest board of rings, and then he used that when he went searching. I didn’t intend for him to use it, but it worked out well 🙂 

Post # 10
849 posts
Busy bee

You are a ninja! that’s pretty clever. I’m hoping that he’ll straight up ask me what I want, that’s what we usually do with gifts.

Post # 11
1278 posts
Bumble bee

That is very clever!  A few months ago (before we talked more directly about it) we were shopping for his mom’s birthday and looking at some jewelry.  I was asking him things like “what kind of metals does your mom typically wear, because some people like me don’t look good with gold because it clashes with my red hair” this way we weren’t talking about my ring or any jewelry for me, but he still heard the one thing I care about for my ring!

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