Post # 1
So my sister got married last summer, it was BEAUTIFUl, pretty chill and very them. I apperently had NO idea how much stuff costs where they live. My parents paid (and are paying for mine, I’m very blessed) but I had no idea how much they paid for hers. I had a self impossed budget that is apperently HALF of my sisters. To her credit, where they had their wedding has a higher cost of living than where my wedding will be and I am DIY a lot more than she did, it wasn’t her thing and I love it. But seriously, twice as much? No wonder my parents were so happy when I told them what I wanted my budget to be (after they asked, I didn’t ask them for money promise!) I’m not complaining at all, I just thought it was interesting. So anyone else have huge difference between their wedding and a siblings?
Post # 3
Our wedding is almost 10X the cost of what my sister’s wedding will be this summer. A lot of it has to do with the locations (I was married in a high cost of living area; she’s getting married in a very small town), but some of it also has to do with preference: eg. Catered, plated meal vs. self-catered buffet. Expensive venue vs. very cheap venue. Floral centerpieces vs. no centerpieces. That sort of thing.
My other sister is also getting married this summer, and I imagine that wedding will be a fraction of what our’s cost. The differences there mainly have to do with cultural differences, though, since she is getting married internationally, and the weddings there are different from weddings here.
All of us are paying for our own weddings, so the budgets are really reflections of what we can afford. I think all of us feel our weddings are “the best,” anyway, no matter the budgetary differences. 🙂 Your wedding day is pretty special, no matter how much you spend.
Post # 4
Yeah, but not in a good way. My sister got married two years ago in New Orleans, and was a VERY frugal bride. Her entire wedding costs were less than $5k and managed to pull off a very nice wedding, even if it wasn’t exactly my taste. My parents paid for it entirely, and told me they’d pay for $5k of my wedding too. Except just from FI and I’s first draft at our budget, it looks like our wedding will end up costing more like $20k. This is due to us being in an area with a high cost of living, and also our own preferences.
We don’t mind paying for the majority of our wedding ourselves, we were always planning to cover a large part. Our budget ended up being a little higher than I anticipated, but it’s still within our grasp. However, in the back of my mind, I know my susper-frugal sister will be judging us a little… 😉
Post # 5
My sisters wedding cost less than 1/2 of mine. My parents paid for both. Both in New York. Ooops
Post # 6
My dad gave me $5,000 and my sister will get the same. He had set up a fund when we were born to help give us a good start.
Post # 7
My future inlaws gave my FSIL $3k towards her $10k wedding last year in Ohio, they’re giving us the same amount (We live in FL), but our wedding will cost 1/2 what his sister’s did