Weddingbee boards

After reading the title of this post, I'm sure several ladies will want to throw their shoes @ me, but try to hear me out! Ha ha

Oh, the torture of waiting... People say that the longer you wait, the more rewarding it is. Of course, many women say to that, "Umm... yeah, except he said he'd propose months ago & it hasn't happened," or "MY DAMN EGGS ARE DRYIN' UP! I love my guy & he needs to make the committment already!" There are many other more obscenity-laden remarks to be made, as well, I'm sure.

But for those of you who are wanting to have big fancy weddings, that ring being placed on your finger means it's time to stop dreaming & start DOING. Now, I know most of us feel beyond ready, but try to find comfort in the fact that, for now, you're not having to do all that work! We can have folders of information & pictures on our computers or in a drawer somewhere, but until we've got that ring, we just look @ it all longingly & grow more & more impatient as FB friends post e-ring photos (and for some of us, pictures of their adorable little babies).

It's often hard for guys to understand the anxiousness to get married, but if you both have discussed it & know that's where it's going, exercise some patience. Becoming obsessed too early on often leads to disappointment: disappointment that you found out exactly when he'd propose, disappointment when it's all finally said & done, or disappointment b/c everything didn't happen exactly how you'd been imagining it all this time.

Try to relax, fellow waiters. Take this time to save some more money, assess your relationship (making sure you want the marriage & not just the wedding), & just be happy in the moment. After the big day passes, that's it. All that planning is done & the fruit of your labor has (hopefully) been enjoyed by all those you care about. Once that honeymoon is over, it's time to get down to the real work: actual marriage. It's very important to remember that it ain't always pretty, kids. And that's OKAY.

You two love each other. Enjoy it. The better you handle the waiting, the more sure he'll be in his decision to make you his wife.

I'm glad you all agree. I'm really diggin' the support network here. It's a great place to turn to, especially in those moments of weakness!

@MissPine: Amen, sister. Maybe I should print this out & tape it to my desk. Ha ha

@armychica06: Definitely! A lot of ladies get discouraged & down, but saving extra money will make the big day all the more special (or give you some cushion should the engagement not work out). I made a "Wedding Tips" jar. LOL Pretty cheesy, but I feel better dropping some extra twenties in there than taking them to the mall w/me!

@Mouse217:

Great post! Thank you for keeping me positive during this period of my relationship. This helps me focus on what being married really means and not focusing on getting engaged.

@Rush1986: Right? My mom kept hassling me around the holidays: "DO YOU THINK HE'LL ASK FOR CHRISTMAS?!" Being the oldest means being expected to start poppin' out the first of the grandbabies. I think she's getting antsy. LOL

@butterflylove: Good! That makes me happy. :-)

Thanks, ladies! So glad you can take a step back. That's hard for most people. I like to think I've found my "happy waiting place..." I do get antsy from time to time, but truthfully, I'd like to dream about it just a little longer before I actually have to start planning, so I just keep telling myself that.

@AubByAub: It's funny/cute in some ways, but then you think, "Gosh... What if I didn't want kids? What if I wanted to wait five or six years after marriage to have them?" She might tear you apart! Maybe you can let her borrow some of your mom's grandkids for the time being. Ha ha

My mom has also been saying (for months), "Well, if you know you're going to marry the person, why not now?" Geez... good advice, Ma! Why would we want to save money & be better financially prepared for marriage? Or live together, so we know we're 100% compatible? That would be CRAZY. LOL She's just got Grandbaby Fever. :-)

@Kay1126: That's a very good point. Ha ha Reading all the wedding & proposal posts can get you pretty amped! Just gotta keep telling ourselves that it will be our turn soon. Think of all the ladies who will be new to waiting when we're engaged. The cycle will continue on. Just try your best to enjoy the in-between (and not having to worry about the hassle of booking venues, caterers, florists, etc.). :-)

Honestly this post makes me want to punch through a wall... Waiting sucks

@alwaysamaid... I agree. Hahaha. My BF and I have been together nearly 8 years and the waiting is killing me. 

I have been a maid of honour and a bridesmaid twice in the past 2 years, all while watching countless friends and aquaintances get engaged on (what feels like) a weekly basis! Waiting sucks. I've embraced the wait long enough!! 

Thanks, ladies! I'm glad (most of) you are able to see the big picture & remember that you're happy just being w/the person you're with. :-)

Hopefully, you'll only be planning a wedding once, so just imagine yourself right after the night has ended & everyone has gone home. That big magical day is over. Looking back on being impatient & super anxious before he even proposed is probably going to seem pretty ridiculous.

Good luck to you all. I hope the question is popped sooner rather than later. Sounds like some of you will be getting marked off the waiting list soon!

@Reign14: Ha ha We all have those not-so-patient days, for sure! SO & I went & got fitted for rings this past weekend, just to make sure we knew what sizes we were. Of course, I had to try on my dream ring to see how it looked. And DAMN. Ha I fell in love! The past few days, I've felt like it should be right there on my finger, but alas... not yet.

I just tell myself to enjoy the ride & savor the in-between. Our day will be here soon. As anxious as I am to create things for the wedding & start booking/reserving, it's pretty nice knowing I don't *have* to do it just yet! ;-)