- 5 years ago
Ladies, I have a challenge for all of us to try for the month of November. To mimic a beloved mentor, “do not hear what I am not saying,” I strongly believe that wedding bee is a community intended to be one of love and support, and talking about dresses, rings, receptions and romance and relationships with other bees is a great experience to share with others going through the same things. However, I will say from personal experience and from reading fellow bees reactions, a forum at the tip of our fingers with beautiful pictures and sweet stories makes it easy to get caught up in material desires or longing to be at a new life phase, instead of focusing on the blessings God has given us here and now. How many of us have longed to “be done waiting” instead of enjoying the mystery of the moment, or spent hours longing to have a certain ring, or band, or modification instead of being grateful someone loved us enough to want to give us the world…including the ring, or felt if we could use cloth linens instead of disposable ones the big day would be “more special” rather than focusing on how many supportive family members wanted to come share that day and make special memories with you? Ladies, lets share a special moment of blessing that we are grateful for in our journey somewhere between dating to death-do-us-part and why we are grateful for it and let’s use this opportunity to help each other focus on things that transcend our “wants.”
I will start as an example but I would love to hear your stories, I mean to tell this story humbly, and only to illustrate the folly of a woman’s heart when it comes to wanting material things…although I think its very sweet. I am “a waiting bee” for a few more days. Ever since we began talking about rings and I asked for a very modest inexpensive style, my SO has always told me, “When I give you a ring, no matter what I want you to look down and know you are valuable and worth everything to me” and he has repeated this mantra to me for years, almost weekly “because I need you to believe it.” And, while because of this I’ve never doubted I would get a ring I would love because he would love it, I have wasted WEEKS, drooling over other rings online and longing for my own as if having it would bring me personal value. I know now that to go with this mantra, he custom designed a ring because he felt none of the store rings were “just right” for showing me what I meant to him.
So, I am grateful for the opportunity I have had to wait for my ring, (even though many of you know it is so hard and some days painful) because through his words and actions it has taught me that my snese of self-value lies how I am treated, not in the status symbol on my right hand.
Your turn, tell me a blessing God has given you-perhaps a blessing that has been hard to focus on because of the overshadowing of longing, wanting, or waiting. Perhaps your story can encourage another Bee.