Post # 1
Sorry to be bombarding the boards. In high planning mode!
Simple question, particularly for Bees that are already married.
FI and I are in the throes of hotel booking and planning the honeymoon. I’m wondering what you would recommend – leaving for the honeymoon the day after the wedding, or taking a day ‘off’ to just relax/regroup/reorganize, and leave on Monday? I’m not particularly keen on seeing people the next day and FMIL hasn’t mentioned wanting to host a brunch for sure or not, but just in general, would you recommend zipping right off on vaycay or waiting a day?
I have plenty of PTO so that’s not a concern!
Post # 3
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
@TwoStatesBride: TAKE A DAY OFF!
On the “day off” DH and I had a leisurely brunch with family, picked up our items from the venue, paid the venue, put our house back together (I got ready there and had moved furniture) and opened gifts.
We didn’t have our HM until a month later actually but that was because we were planning to attend a friend’s DW while on our HM.
I couldnt’ have left so soon after, too much to do!
Post # 4
@mchitt329: we have it organized so its possible for us to leave the day after. we live far from where we’re marrying (we moved away 3 years ago but are getting married in our home state so family can be there). we have to travel in and stay in hotels/with friends and family anyway, so we will go from the venue back to the hotel the night after, then the next day we could get up, eat breakfast, pack, and head out on an afternoon flight on our honeymoon.
i’m just not sure how keen i am on seeing people the day after, i guess i need to decide for sure on that and see for sure if FMIL wants to host the brunch or not. i just always had this image of the bride and groom leaving the venue and spending time locked in each other’s arms for the next week or so, lol! probably silly.
i do like the idea of taking the day off to regroup mentally, though. who knows if something might go wrong/get misplaced/go unpaid by accident? it might be nice to have that extra day to get ourselves back together…hmmm
Post # 5
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
@TwoStatesBride: Ooo I see, well if you’re already travelling for your wedding I guess it makes sense to keep on going.
But consider you might be tired. It’s also nice to have the option to see guests again, depending on the size of your wedding there’s a lot of people that you may miss as they leave or not be able to spend as much time with as you would have wanted. We just told people we’d be having brunch in the hotel around this time and they could show up if they wanted to, no formal brunch.
Post # 6
@mchitt329: both of those things are very true. i’m leaning toward taking a day off, if for nothing else but to be super zen for a day before we zip off again! haha.
Post # 7
def take a day off. we were exhausted the day after the wedding
Post # 8
I would take the day off, stay in the room and order room service!
Plus you might save a little money leave for your honeymoon on Monday instead of Sunday.
Post # 9
I’d suggest taking a day off in between. It gives you a chance to switch gears from wedding events and honeymoon packing. Even if you’re not meeting up with people the next day it’s a good time to re-organize all of your wedding gifts, supplies, clothes and take care of any last minute vacation prep. Super less stressful that way.
Post # 10
We are taking the day off for a few reasons:
– to rest
– all OOT guests (FI’s whole family) will still be here so we are having a brunch
– make sure everything is packed and everything is back in order from the craziness of the wedding weekend
Post # 11
@TwoStatesBride: We are getting married on a Friday night and will depart for our honeymoon late Sunday evening. We are going to do family stuff on Saturday with our out-of-towners and Sunday will be just for us and packing. 🙂
Post # 12
Take a day off , to pack , pick up last minute things , reflect on the day before you hubby and Fam … so much you can do the day after your big day 🙂
Post # 13
We traveled for our wedding as well, and still took a day off. We were EXHAUSTED! It was nice to not have to be out of the hotel room by 11am – we got to sleep in and be lazy in our awesome room :-).
Post # 14
@TwoStatesBride: Since you have the time off to spare, definitely take a day off in between an evening wedding and the start of your formal honeymoon, especially if you are flying anywhere and have to be at the airport at a specific time,
Our venue was 1.5 hours from our departure city, and we didn’t arrive at our hotel until close to 1:30 a.m. on the day after our wedding. There is no way that I wanted my long-awaited wedding night (because of our faith, the only intimacy we had shared with each other before our wedding was kissing while clothed) to be non-existent because we had to check out of our hotel three hours after we arrived so that we could get to the airport for our flight the next day.
I wanted a buffer day so that we could attempt to rest and recover from all of the wedding prep and to begin exploring the start of our life together as husband and wife, and I am SO glad we did this. Even with the “extra” day, we only ended up being in our beautiful hotel suite for about 27 hours total from check-in very early Saturday morning after our Friday night wedding to our early morning check-out on Sunday.
Post # 15
Take a day off. We did and it was great! The whole “event” flies by so fast that it’s nice to have a little down time to reflect. (and to rest too 🙂 )
Post # 16
I’ve done it both ways…
First Marriage we left the Reception went to our Honeymoon Suite at a nearby Hotel, then back the next morning to have Coffee with my Parents, and open some Wedding Presents, say our farewells, and then in the afternoon we headed off on our week long Honeymoon
We had a bit of a gap in that the Sunday was relatively slow… and we didn’t have to catch an early morning flight or anything (have had friends do that, and they soooo regretted it, because they were exhausted, and spent the first few days in their fabulous Honeymoon Destination just sleeping)
This time round…
Mr TTR and I spent the next day in utter leisure. We had a late check out at our Honeymoon Suite. Then a couple hours drive to the Airport Hotel where we arrived mid Afternoon, and hung out / relaxed (pool, cocktails, dinner, etc).
Next morning was our flight… so no mad rush from Wedding Day – Wedding Night to Flight. That was sooo worth it.
We got to the first stop on our Honeymoon (Old San Juan) very very relaxed, and got to fully enjoy it before moving onto the next stage (Caribbean Cruise)
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First Wedding it was nice to have a bit of a gap… Second the longer gap made it even better.
The one thing I would advise is don’t just go back to your routine after the Wedding… EVERYONE deserves at least a Mini Moon and a Night in a nice Hotel. I wouldn’t want to leave my Wedding Reception / Day and just head back home. That would be a let down… you most certainly want to keep the “specialness” that is your Wedding Day going as long as possible.
Hope this helps,