Post # 1
Hi bees, here’s my dilemma, I was married in the past and have a 5 y/o boy, after my separation I met a wonderful man who I’ve been dating for 3 years, the problem is he won’t comit, we do not live together.
My son knows him since he was 2 and he’s really attached to him, but last July I told him that I was a mom, that I didn’t want my son to get hurt and I needed to know where my and my son’s future was heading and I couldn’t wait forever so I told him if he didn’t propose by the end of 2014 I would leave.
I love him very much, he’s a wonderful man, great to my son but it’s not fair to me and my son to be with someone that won’t commit.
what if he doesn’t propose? Do I leave right away or give him extra time?
Post # 2
Maybe you should talk to him again.
This is something I was going through, except I was the partner in the situation. When I met my SO and his son, I knew that either I was in it for the long haul or I would commit. After a little over a year of dating, I moved around all my future goals to fit a life with the two I love most. I guess what I’m trying to say is, your concerns are valid. Your son will be going through a time in his life that he needs stability and commitment. My stepson is 7, and I couldn’t imagine ever leaving his life. We’ve grown so close over the past two years.
I really hope everything works out for the better for you and your son.
Post # 3
thanks girl, are you married now? Was it hard for you? Cuz technically you’re marrying both of them
Post # 4
jay.cz.37: Not yet, but we’re getting married in September 2015. It’s not hard at all! I love his son like he’s my own. I do many things with his son without him, such as take him to the library, to school, on play dates, etc. He even invited me to his first grade conferences earlier this week! I get along well with his mother, as well. She’s very accepting of me in his life, which makes a world of difference.