Post # 1
FH and I often want to leave events at different times. Last night there was an improptu party and I wanted to leave well before FH did, and with other people around, that can be a hard conversation. Even when we discuss how long we will be at a party ahead of time, sometimes things change (a friend we haven’t seen in a while shows up, we get sucked into an interesting conversaiton, etc.) I am sure that we aren’t the only ones to have this problem. Does anyone have a code that they use? Any other ideas? Thanks!
Post # 3
We just lean over to each other and say wanna go at an opportune time like people or us getting up to get drinks again, or going one group to another.
Post # 4
When it starts getting later, and I’m ready to go, I ask what time it is. Lol. That sounds stupid but then he knows I’m ready to leave within an hour. It gives him an hour to socialize more, and I can deal for one more hour. But it’s never anything we’ve ever discussed. Its just one of those things that just fell into place. Haha.
Post # 5
Usually we discuss it beforehand. When DH is ready to leave before I am, he just asks if I am ready to go. When I am ready to leave before DH, he usually anticipates it and turns to me and says we will leave in X amount of time. At my friend’s wedding, he was ready to leave before I was so someone offered me a ride home. We were both okay with it so I stayed for another 3 hours. I am lucky, DH is pretty easygoing 🙂
Post # 6
Most of the time we give each other ‘the look’ that means we’re ready, but sometimes I’ll end up texting him if he’s not paying attention. Haha.
Post # 7
@glittermoon: Same here! We’re pretty good at reading each other, but sometimes it will take one of us going to the bathroom and texting the other- LOL.
Post # 8
We’re both pretty social people, so generally we are usually the last ones to leave a party. Yeah… we’re THAT couple. 😉
But, there are times we’re ready at different times, so we’ll just give each other a look or talk quietly to each other. If we’re going to something neither of us really want to go to, we have a specified time we’re leaving arranged before getting there.
Post # 9
Usually one of us will just learn over and quietly say “getting tired,” “not feeling well” or just “Is it time to go?” It works pretty well.
Post # 10
@sunshine_kar: “What time is it?” is classic. We use it all the time. It’s kinda like code for, “I’m tired, get me outta here.”.
Post # 11
I give him a look. He knows what it means. He then announces that we will be leaving shortly and we start saying our goodbyes.
Post # 12
We usually can just give the other one a look and we know, but if that fails one of us just says, “I’m pretty tired, (insert socially acceptable explanation- work, school, sick, etc)” and we know it’s time to head out. We never discussed it though…. it just sort of happened.
Post # 13
“The look” works for us too… he usually responds by moving his head a certain way that no one notices (it’s not a practiced or thought-out thing, just his quirk) that tells me he got it, and we start saying our good-byes.
ETA: Or what FutureMrsTimmins said! I skipped to the end w/o reading everything. lol
Post # 14
@guitargirl: You can try text messaging. Me and SO do this sometimes when we’re in situations where we don’t want to say something in front of the people we’re with.
Post # 15
I do the ‘Hey Babe, what time is it?’ code, or if that’s not working, I’ll send him a text. 🙂