Post # 1
We have hundreds of pictures both professional and non-professional taken on my wedding day. Our professional album, which I am regretting even getting, the pictures are copied onto the page itself, so it sort of looks like a magazine. Once the pictures are in the album, you can’t just remove them like an ordinary album. We chose pictures for this album and there are a few people whose pictures I’m not sure I want to include. We are doing this today.
I have not spoken to my MOH since my wedding and at this point don’t know if I will again. Long story. I posted it on another board. I also invited my “father” to the wedding last minute after being estranged from him since I was a teenager (he was a deabeat). I kinda regret doing this now but at the time I thought it was the right thing to do. He too is in pictures, family ones, which IMO were akwardand then some others at the reception, church, etc. Me and him have stayed in touch since then via the phone and that is the extent of the relationship at the moment and I realized not much has changed. For personal reasons, I’m not even sure if I want to continue talking to him. And I right now, I would rather not have him permanently added to albums I will have for a lifetime. The same things goes for my MOH. She is in the background of some pictures, but I have not included any individual pictures of just me, her or me or my BP, who I regret asking. So does it make sense to leave these pictures out and include pictures of my family, etc..who have altways been in my life and will most likely be in my life for a long time to come and have pictures that I actually like? The album looks beautiful the way it is now. I mean I still have all these pictures to look at, I just rather not have them made up album. We also can only choose 50 out of like 500 so the 50 we found, look great.
Post # 3
It’s your album, so you should do what you want with it to make you happy.
I had an issue with this too. My bil decided two weeks after our wedding to get a divorce. Which meant, at the wedding his wife was in all of our family pictures. She’s not very nice to him so we aren’t huge fans of hers, but since she’s family she obviously had to be there. Of course I was a little pissed to have her in our forever pictures, but I decided not to worry about it and keep them. She was his wife at the time of the wedding, she was there to celebrate with us, and there’s not much I can do about it.
Post # 4
Honestly, I’m afraid to show my mom our wedding album and it’s been 3 years! I personally feel like the album is for photos of the couple and special moments during the wedding, so my mom isn’t in the photos very much. I’m fine with this, but I know once she sees it, she will be offended that she isn’t in more.
My thought is that it’s your wedding and your album. It’s supposed to be about the two of you, so I think what you’re doing is fine!
Post # 5
We too are in the same situation with my DH mother and his sister who we are estranged from, and even more so after the wedding. We got married 4 weeks ago, and his mom and sister acted so inapporiate and awful, just like they had been the entire engagment, sadly, our photographer got confused when we indicated NO pics of the mother, just pics of his dad and his dads gf ( whom we are very close with and look at as family) The way my mother in law was acting, she was hanging all over her Ex, that the photographer thought SHE was the Gf, and quickly shuffled us into rounds and rounds of pics. We are very disappointed, my H was upset because he feels the pictures are a complete waste, and NO ONE is going to want to display those kinds of pics. He felt it was so fake to have his mom standing in pics with us when she can’t even be civil and not cause major issues and acts that I don’t even exsist, on top of her standing in pics hand in hand with his father, when he says thats not his family. We got a few pics without her and including the GF , not many, but those we are chosing to include in our pics. We had a wonderful wedding, aside from his mom and sister, but we don’t want to look back at our album 5 years from now and look at them and have the bad memories and the problems be the first thing we think about when we look at our pics.
Its your pics, you paid a lot of money for them I’m sure, so do what makes you happy and what is going to make you happy in 5, 10, 15 years. Even if the problems with your family or maid of honor work itself out in years to come, you still don’t want to look back at pics and have the not so good thoughts go through your head.
Post # 6
We are getting a photo album. Instead, we are asking our photographer to credit us the costs to get more prints of photos that we LOVE! We also get copy rights to the CD of images from our photographer, so we can have smaller photos printed and framed with family and friends that are “on the fringe”. Perhaps this is something you can negotiate with your photographer. Or, just make a photo album of the two of you and leave the rest to a CD/prints at kinkos type deal.
Post # 7
we are NOT getting a photo album. sorry for the typo!
Post # 8
It’s your wedding album. You can choose the pictures in it however you want.
However, I do wonder about what it means to try to write people out of your wedding. To the extent that you want the album to be a reflection of what actually happened (as opposed to some fantasy of what you wished had happened), those people were part of it. Also, it has been my own experience (having been married the first time back in 1977) that often the people you most want to be able to point out years later are the ones who caused the most trouble at your wedding: “Oh, yes, this is Uncle David, who showed up at the rehearsal dinner even though he was not invited, and made one of the invited guests do without dinner.”