Post # 1
So I obviously want to look fantastic on my wedding day. I would like to look like I did when we started dating alomst 9 years ago and that will mean losing in the range of 30 pounds. I also want Michelle Obama/Jennifer Aniston arms for my big day! My problem is
a) I have serious problems motivating myself to go to the gym
b) I hate getting home from work at 5:30/6:30 after being gone all day and turning around and leaving my FH on the couch (there’s no way I’m getting him to come to the gym right now)
How do other bees motivate themselves to go out again? Anyone else have a hard time leaving the FH at home?
Post # 3
@MsGinkgo: Don’t go home. Pack your gym clothes/shoes and take them to work with you. Hit the gym before going home. Once you’re home you’ll never leave!
Post # 4
@MexiPino: +1 Exactly!
Also, do you have anyone to go with that can meet you there? I used to do this until I just got too busy with wedding stuff after work that I started working out at my aunt’s home gym with her at 5:00am.
Post # 5
Does your gym offer group classes? I discovered Zumba a few months ago at my gym, I love it so much that it’s not hard to motivate myself to get out the door. If you know you have a purpose once you are there it might make it easier.
Post # 6
@MexiPino: also +1
I take my hot yoga stuff to work with me 3 times a week. If I go home first, I never ever make it.
Post # 7
Yes! And it’s even harder now AFTER the wedding, lol. My husband and I have run into this problem.
Both of us arrive home from work about 6pm-ish. By then we’re so tired and hungry; still need to go to the gym, but sometimes we talk ourselves out of it, sadly enough. We tried meeting at the gym, but he would get there so much sooner than me that by the time I got there he’d be finished and then have to wait around while I worked out.
What we’ve been doing since the weather turned nicer is meeting at a local park about mid-way between our two work places and doing the workout circuit together there. It’s not ideal but it’s been working better than getting all the way home and then trying to go back out. Motivation is the most difficult part for staying in shape. We also do some workouts at home when we can’t get to the park or the gym.
For dinner I’ve usually planned something in advance on evenings we’re working out. Chef salad or stir-fry are pretty quick and my husband helps me cook and clean up. We usually don’t eat until around 8-9pm on those nights, though.
There really isn’t an easy way to do it. At least you have a great motivating factor right now – your wedding dress. 🙂 And wedding pictures!
Post # 8
@MexiPino: problem is I have to go home. We share a vehicle which, due to my job, i have during the day. i have to pick him up from work and drop him off. I guess I don’t have to go inside….
Other problem, he’s useless (and i mean useless) in the kitchen. If i don’t cook him supper when he gets home he’ll eat potato chips for supper. After supper the gym really isn’t happening. Tonight I have a lasange prepped to go in the oven, it’ll take about 45 minutes to be ready – I’m thinking I can give him some simple instructions and he can pop it in and I can go to the gym and come home to supper ready and waiting…
Post # 9
I have this same problem… it’s so hard to motivate myself to go back out, but if I don’t go home after work, I am on my own for dinner, as we eat with my in laws. 🙁
Post # 10
classes have been helping me get motivated. my gym has free ones, and I know they can fill up kind of quickly so I feel an obligation to show up once I’ve taken that spot!
Pre-preparing meals can help ease the Fiance into taking care of himself, too! Sometimes it’s leaving instructions (combine the blue tupperware and the red one, put cheese on top, bake it) or just having leftovers from the night before.
Post # 11
I hated having to miss out my time with my husband in the evenings after work, so I started working out in the morning. 🙂 It took a few days to get used to it, but now I love it.
Post # 12
@Miss_Magoo82: This is part of my problem. The class i LOVE is at 7:30 on Tuesday nights. They offer their weighlifting class right after work every day and i HATE that class.
by the time comes for me to go to my 7:30 class I’m totally lost motivation
Post # 13
If I have to workout alone, so be it. I was working out before he came along and wasn’t going to compromise. He now works out too, we are on the same plan now that we are married. There are times that he goes without me and I go without him. On Saturdays we both go (though workout separately) and have decided to start working out together on Thursdays.
In the end, it’s your health and your heart and that should be motivation enough. Once I started thinking about it that way, it was an easy decision. Your going may motivate him.
Post # 14
Either go right away or work out at home. I got for jogs, do yoga and tae bo all at home. So i dont have to add the annoying travel time to my work outs.
It works for me.
Post # 15
Can you go to the gym in the morning?
My Fiance and I get home from work much earlier than you (usually by 4), so I’m able to quick make dinner and then we have an hour or two to digest before heading to the gym between 8 and 9 pm. On days when we have evening plans, we go the gym right after getting home from work. Our gym doesn’t open until 6:30 am, so we can’t go before work. Another tactic is to move one or two weekday workouts to the weekend. We started off wanting to go to the gym 3x/week, M W F, but our Fridays are usually occupied by one thing or another – so we go on Saturday mornings instead.
Regarding uselessness in the kitchen – I’m of the opinion that anybody can learn to cook at some level. Maybe it’s the level of frozen chicken patty sandwiches and steamed veggies, but hey, it’s better than potato chips. On the nights when you’re able to be home and cook, have him join you in the kitchen and see if you can teach him some basic meals.
Post # 16
Are you able to work out at home? I can’t get myself to work out in the mornings and once I’m home for the evening, I usually don’t feel like heading out to the gym. There’s some great workout DVD’s out there (Jillian Michaels is my personal favorite) and good workouts on demand if you have cable. Usually all you need is a cleared space and some hand weights, 3-5 lbs, even if you don’t have weights you can use cans of food.