legal advice?

posted 3 years ago in Legal
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA

Have you talked to the celebrant? That’s your best chance of keeping it private, but I wouldn’t lie on the paperwork.

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Clearly if you’re getting married they know you’re not with the other guy, or did they not know you were married in the first place?

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Don’t lie on the paperwork, that could actually void your new marriage and could leave you open to perjury allegations. You can’t change it after it is filed. Far better to just talk to the celebrant and ask them to keep things private.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@Mezdy:  Another option is to get married legally a day or two before and just do the vows without the paperwork on the day. That takes the paperwork out of the hands of the celebrant. Or pick another one under the assumption that it will upset your parents less than finding out about your past marriage (although personally, I think you should probably just tell them since it could easily come out in future…).

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@Mezdy:   You cannot lie on the paperwork.  That is perjury.  You will have to choose from your other options.

Post # 9
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

I would legally get married separately from the wedding celebration you have planned with your family. Go to the courthouse the day before, a week before, whatever. Then, you don’t have to worry about the paperwork.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

This person online seemed to have a similar question:

“I have been married 3 times but my fiancée doesn’t know about my previous marriages. When filling out our marriage license application, is it illegal to not disclose the correct number of times I’ve been married before?

It is embarrassing to have to admit to these past mistakes. Will my marriage still be legal? Would the authorities check this information and tell my husband about my lie?”

The reply:

“We hope you reconsider not being honest with your fiancée about your former marriages. Although it is unlikely that the marriage officials would check the validity of your statements on the marriage license and notify your husband, truth has a way of becoming known and it could have a very negative impact on your marriage.

According to most state and country laws, it is illegal to lie when you are filling out your marriage license application.

However, the lie does not necessarily invalidate your marriage. Withholding information about how many times you were previous married or your age is generally considered immaterial to your marriage.

Generally, in order to have your marriage declared invalid by a court, the false information had to violate state law. Examples:

  • Under Legal Age of Consent.
  • Bigamy.
  • Incest.
  • Insanity.
  • Fraud.

There could be legal consequences of giving false information on a marriage license application. They include being charged with perjury or a misdemeanor.

For example, Wisconsin lawstates, “A penalty of not more than $10,000 or imprisonment of not more than 9 months or both to any person who knowingly gives false information when applying for a marriage license.”

Rhode Island law states, “Any person who willfully and knowingly supplies false information on a marriage license shall be punished by a fine of not more than $1,000 or imprisoned not more than one year, or both, pursuant to Section 23-3-28 of the RI General Laws.”

LEGAL DISCLAIMER: This text should not be regarded as legal advice. Consult an attorney familiar with marriage and family law and your own personal circumstances for legal advice regarding providing false information on marriage license applications or invalid marriages.”

So yes, you might still be married but you also might cop a $10,000 fine or be sent to jail for a year. Probably not worth it just to avoid stressing out your parents.

Post # 12
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

@Mezdy:  So get the marriage license to the celebrant to fill out and don’t actualy submit it and then get married at the courthouse after.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@mrsSonthebeach:  Correct me if I’m wrong, but usually the celebrant submits the license after they sign it. So they’d still have to tell the celebrant not to submit the license on the day or soon after, which may raise similar questions to getting the paperwork done beforehand.

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