(Closed) Legal Bees- Legal process of moving to another state w/son

posted 5 years ago in Legal
Post # 3
Member
5892 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

I don;t know much, but you will need a lawyer and lots of money. If your ex has said no so far, what makes you think its going to change just because you have a job?

Post # 4
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924 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

Be glad that your son has a father that wants to be in his life.  It’s not fair to your son or your ex to just up and move because your new husband has no friends.  A friend’s ex wife is trying to do this right now and it’s disgusting.

Post # 6
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3887 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

If your son’s father does not want to agree to your moving so far away, it will likely be a long legal fight and one you’re not likely to win. Short of your ex being in prison, there are few reasons a judge would ever accept as grounds string enough to deny his parental visitation rights. He may be more willing to cooperate if you give him something in return, such as visitation one weekend a month (the boy’s travel at your expense) plus the lion’s share of summer vacation.

Post # 7
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317 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2018

My Fiance has two children and I have divorced friends who have kids.  You need to go to court. You can’t just take your child and leave. Why would you want to move your child away from his father? And while you go to court, you need to petition for child support.

Post # 9
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4466 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

@MissFireFlower:  Why would you want to put your son through having to travel 20 hours  every other weekend??

Post # 10
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6554 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2050

@MissFireFlower:  When you say you’d pay “travel fees”, do you mean airfare? Or a 10-hour train trip or bus ride? If it’s a train or bus, is that 10 hours round-trip or one-way? And would your 5-year-old be doing that trip solo? Every other weekend? This does not sound reasonable.

Post # 12
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3887 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

That is what I’m saying. Get your ex to agree to a different visitation arrangement, then go see the judge. BUT a judge is not going to force him to alter the custody agreement. You have to get your ex to agree.

Post # 13
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4466 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

@MissFireFlower:  Would your five year old be flying on an airplane solo every other weekend?

Post # 15
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777 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

@star_dust:  I was wondering that, too…

OP, taking your son away from his father is a sad, sad idea, regardless if he doesn’t always take advantage of his visitation rights. As your son grows up and has school functions, his father is more likely to come to them if he’s 15 minutes away than if he were 10 hours away. My dad lived 16 hours away and I saw him twice within ten years, even though my parents agreed on visitation rights. Now, he’s been dead for almost three years and I would give anything to have had more time with him.

Post # 16
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777 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

But as for your original question, yes, you would be in for a very long and costly legal battle if his father doesn’t agree to it.

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