Legal bees, need help with family court matter

posted 3 years ago in Legal
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

It sounds like what her step-mother is doing is in violation of your custody agreement, so I would contact the attorney and/or court that holds your custody agreement in place and claim a violation. 

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@Mrslovebug:  I can’t speak for every state, since it really differs greatly.  But it would not be treated the same as abuse.  It would just most likely open up the option for you to modify the custody agreement.  And possibly obtain full custody, if you would like to take it that route. 

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

Document everything. Dates, photos (like the scratch) and accusations she made. If teachers mention ANYTHING about her behavior changes, things she has said about her visiting her father, have it written down and put it in a file. Be as exact and detailed as possible. Quote things as closely as you can.

Next, call a lawyer or family services and ask for their advice. They will want details and they may not be able to do anything, yet, but starting the documentation will help. Until then, stay ass clean as you can. Don’t fall into their bad behavior and speak poorly or keep her from speaking to her dad on the phone or visiting when she should.

My sister is a social worker and this is exactly what she told my cousin when she was in a similar situation. Having outside people speak to the issues like teachers is VERY helpful. Let them know that you need anything out of the ordinary documented.

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 1999

He would more than likely still retain vistation rights, so I would think very heard about what you are trying to gain-supervised visiations, his girlfriend not being present during visitations, etc. I would suggest some family counceling or a co-parenting class for you and your ex (and significant others if possible). Sorry you are going through this. Adults that can’t put their sh*t aside for the best of the kids drive me nuts, hopefully this girl will straighen out!

Post # 9
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Mrslovebug:  i would consult your lawyer. Sounds like it’s time to revisit te custody situation since he is in violation. 

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I work at a non profit that deals with family law matters, and we hold brief 30 minute law clinics where people can come in and speak to an attorney to ask a couple of questions and get some direction on how they should proceed. Do you know if anything like that exists in your area? I know law schools and county attorneys offer things like this as well. I would google your city and then family law clinics, just to see if he or the girlfriend are in violation of your custody agreement.

 

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Well, I’m not a legal bee but I work in an area of social services where I hear a lot of horror stories just like yours.  It sounds like modifying the custody agreement is in your daughter’s best interest due to the girlfriend’s behavior.  If he cannot stop this woman from traumatizing your child than he does not have her best interest at heart and should not have the privilege of spending as much time with her, especially not three months straight.  

 

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@Mrslovebug:  If you’re going through an attorney, they would draft this pleading for you. Again, not sure on SC law, but it is my understand that these forms are for the use of Attorney’s.

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