(Closed) Legitimate question about this site – please don't attack me.

posted 5 years ago in Weddingbee
Post # 3
Hostess
7561 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

Anytime you get a bunch of different people together, some are going to appear to be sensitive just because they have different viewpoints. We’ve all got different stories to tell, and everyone is sensitive about something. 

Post # 4
Member
3886 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I’ll answer that once I figure out the sound of one hand clapping.

Post # 5
Member
6360 posts
Bee Keeper

On this site, you are not allowed to express an opinion that may be seen as “criticizing others’ wedding choices” and that can be hard…when the site topic is weddings. Undecided

Post # 6
Member
6745 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

@oneofthesethings:  Personally, I think people sometimes say things in a way that could certainly have been said nicer.  I don’t really find people to be too sensitive – but it is true that they don’t like to be disagreed with.  I think a lot of people think they’re right and it’s hard to hear that they’re not! 

Post # 7
Member
7794 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

So you call people selfish jerks and then you wonder why that upsets them. Um, ok.

Post # 9
Member
3847 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2004

@oneofthesethings:  I have seen some bees say some very ugly things to each other.  After a while, you learn the politics of this forum.  It is not always fair and it’s not right but there are some very good things about this site too.  My biggest advice about Weddingbee is that if you have unpopular opinions and feel strongly about them, tread lightly.  

Post # 10
Member
1186 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@oneofthesethings:  I’m one of the few who admitted to agreeing with you earlier. I actually googled a snippet of your previous post when I first saw it because I was curious if it was a copy/paste.  I didn’t get any hits.  You should have cited your source and posed it as a discussion instead.

But yes, the moderators on this site see that it remains very delicate.

Post # 11
Member
467 posts
Helper bee

Haha, I think its also that its anoymous.  You can be as rude, crazy or overly sensative as you want without anyone knowing its you who is crazying it up.  Also, in person, few of your friends are going to tell you you are acting like a bridezilla.  No one likes to hear it, and its usually not well recieved.  Ultimately this is why your friends don’t do it, and only random, unkown people in cyber space are willing to tell you that you that asking your bridemaids to get matching nose jobs is crossing the line.  🙂

Post # 12
Member
341 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I think you can disagree… But, you may want to do so in a way that recognizes that weddings, relationships, parenting (the topics on this site) are emotionally charged and very personal.  Validation, support, and encouragement may be more importantthan advice on this site.  And even when advice is sought, it is important to realize the huge diversity of economiAmanda cultural backgrounds represented on Weddingbee.  In my opinion, this site is a source of support… In all it’s forms. Support may mean giving an honest opinion, but it also means giving that opinion in a caring way that acknowledges that not everyone can buy aseconds gown, lose 80 pounds, or afford 3 carats.  Bit, EVERYONE deserves to feel (and IS) beautiful and loved on their wedding day.  It is a tough balance, and a good exercise in communicating your own preferences in a positive, non-judgemental way.

Post # 13
Member
7904 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

The worst is when someone asks for advice and then gets mad when you give it.

Post # 14
Member
5296 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1993

@oneofthesethings: Some people get really, really nasty when they perceive someone’s opinion as a personal attack/judgement of them. And may, instead of civilly posting something that  may alter your opinion and lead to a nice discussion – resort to actions like calling you a bitch. 

MrsFuzzyFace is right – you’ll figure out that there are just certain opinions you don’t give voice to, because they won’t be taken well. 

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