Post # 1
I know that saying “please don’t attack me” is pretty much an invitation to attack, but whatever.
It seems like most people on here are very, very sensitive. Like too sensitive. There seem to be very few who have a sense of humor or can handle an opinion that differs from their own.
It’s just the internet – why do people get so angry and upset? And why aren’t people allowed to express opinions that others might disagree with?
Post # 3
Anytime you get a bunch of different people together, some are going to appear to be sensitive just because they have different viewpoints. We’ve all got different stories to tell, and everyone is sensitive about something.
Post # 4
I’ll answer that once I figure out the sound of one hand clapping.
Post # 5
On this site, you are not allowed to express an opinion that may be seen as “criticizing others’ wedding choices” and that can be hard…when the site topic is weddings.
Post # 6
@oneofthesethings: Personally, I think people sometimes say things in a way that could certainly have been said nicer. I don’t really find people to be too sensitive – but it is true that they don’t like to be disagreed with. I think a lot of people think they’re right and it’s hard to hear that they’re not!
Post # 7
So you call people selfish jerks and then you wonder why that upsets them. Um, ok.
Post # 8
@paula1248: See, that’s what I mean about people being too sensitive, and not having a sense of humor. I certainly did not call any person a name, which is more than I can say for the people who called me a bitch.
For the record, I didn’t write any of that post. I saw it somewhere and copied and pasted it because I found it amusing.
Post # 9
@oneofthesethings: I have seen some bees say some very ugly things to each other. After a while, you learn the politics of this forum. It is not always fair and it’s not right but there are some very good things about this site too. My biggest advice about Weddingbee is that if you have unpopular opinions and feel strongly about them, tread lightly.
Post # 10
@oneofthesethings: I’m one of the few who admitted to agreeing with you earlier. I actually googled a snippet of your previous post when I first saw it because I was curious if it was a copy/paste. I didn’t get any hits. You should have cited your source and posed it as a discussion instead.
But yes, the moderators on this site see that it remains very delicate.
Post # 11
Haha, I think its also that its anoymous. You can be as rude, crazy or overly sensative as you want without anyone knowing its you who is crazying it up. Also, in person, few of your friends are going to tell you you are acting like a bridezilla. No one likes to hear it, and its usually not well recieved. Ultimately this is why your friends don’t do it, and only random, unkown people in cyber space are willing to tell you that you that asking your bridemaids to get matching nose jobs is crossing the line. 🙂
Post # 12
I think you can disagree… But, you may want to do so in a way that recognizes that weddings, relationships, parenting (the topics on this site) are emotionally charged and very personal. Validation, support, and encouragement may be more importantthan advice on this site. And even when advice is sought, it is important to realize the huge diversity of economiAmanda cultural backgrounds represented on Weddingbee. In my opinion, this site is a source of support… In all it’s forms. Support may mean giving an honest opinion, but it also means giving that opinion in a caring way that acknowledges that not everyone can buy aseconds gown, lose 80 pounds, or afford 3 carats. Bit, EVERYONE deserves to feel (and IS) beautiful and loved on their wedding day. It is a tough balance, and a good exercise in communicating your own preferences in a positive, non-judgemental way.
Post # 13
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
The worst is when someone asks for advice and then gets mad when you give it.
Post # 14
@oneofthesethings: Some people get really, really nasty when they perceive someone’s opinion as a personal attack/judgement of them. And may, instead of civilly posting something that may alter your opinion and lead to a nice discussion – resort to actions like calling you a bitch.
MrsFuzzyFace is right – you’ll figure out that there are just certain opinions you don’t give voice to, because they won’t be taken well.
Post # 15
@the boss of you: Yes, that’s a good point – I didn’t even think of that. I’m certain that the discussion would have been the same except for the vitriol directed at me perhaps 🙂