Lesbian Brides…

posted 3 years ago in LGBTQ
Post # 3
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663 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Jacksonville Inn

I’m so sorry you are having to deal with this! I have not had this experiance yet but it would make me so sad! If/when it happens with our planning I guess the only solice I would take is that at least I found out before I gave them our money. I hope the rest of your planning is nothing but joyous! No one deserves to be made to feel like that, but especially during this happy time!

Post # 4
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811 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Not a lesbian bride, but I have experience with rejection for sure. It stings especially around a wedding because this is supposed to be the most perfect, overwhelmingly happy, time in our lives. (which is BS in my opinion btw. My wedding better nt be the best day of my life. I have a whole lifetime ahead of me with my wonderful FI)

Biggest piece of advice is to just keep doing it. The sting will wear off pretty quickly. And just remember that een though it doesn’t feel like it in the moment, there are so many people who are supportive of you and same-sex couples all over the world 🙂

For what it is worth I am so happy for you and your fiance and wish you nothing less than a lifetime of love and happiness 🙂

Post # 5
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4382 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Hugs!! So sorry you experienced that, it feels terrible to be rejected. I know it doesn’t take the pain away but you don’t want to give homophobic businesses your money anyways. Your day is about the two of you, the right place will open up for you 

Post # 7
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1249 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I can’t even imagine what you have to go through. I am not gay (is that a PC term?) and have never been discriminated against. I have no real advice for you. Just know there are others who feel for you and are in your corner. Not everyone thinks like those at the venue who rejected you.

Post # 8
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2878 posts
Sugar bee

@Mrstidwell:  I can’t believe venues would turn you down for having a private event and commitment ceremony with your fiancée. My heart goes to you. I have no advice, but I wanted to show support. <3

Post # 9
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225 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I’m so sorry you had to experience this. I dated women almost exclusively before I met my FI, who happens to be a man. So while I’ve never dealt with what you are going through I understand the sting of not wanting to hold my girlfriend’s hand in public or struggling to use certain pronouns, etc. Again though, I can’t imagine being turned down from a venue because some people don’t believe in my love. Planning a wedding is already hard/emotional enough without this extra fuckery. You can always leave a review for other LGBT couples so that they know not to waste their time, and I’m sure straight couples who would prefer not to support such businesses would appreciate that info as well.

Post # 10
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620 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@Mrstidwell:  do venues and vendors really do that? That’s appalling. It seems illegal as well, like discrimination? I can’t really relate but I have seen on many vendor sites and venue sites LGBTQ friendly – so maybe you could search that way? Unfortunately there are still many close minded people but you can’t let it get you down. You’ll find someplace great : )

Post # 11
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2878 posts
Sugar bee

@chickspartan:  +1. 

This would bother the hell out of me if I learned the venue I wanted was discriminating couples based on sexual orientation. I’d prefer to know, and I would not book a place like this. My cousin is lesbian, and FI’s uncle is gay. They wouldn’t bring their SOs to our wedding because their love is not ”legal” ? No, just no. 

 

Post # 13
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1662 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Mrstidwell:  Hugs! Would it help of you had a friend call your list of vendors to make initial inquiries? My sister is a lesbian and I would totally do that if she was getting married. I would be her right hand woman!

Post # 14
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86 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

That is so awful. I live in Canada where it is legal to marry whoever you love. My mom is gay and I would be out for blood if they did that to her. 

Post # 16
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560 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

I’m a fellow Texan and I’m really sorry people suck! This might be totally unhelpful but I found these:

http://www.purpleunions.com/usa/texas.html

http://gayweddingsforum.com/forum/topics/texas-gayfriendly-venues

 

Although it’s so ridiculous to have to search for a place to NOT discriminate against you, maybe knowing that some of these businesses are not outright hateful may limit you from having to experience the worst of it. Good luck!

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