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Less patience with annoying people?

posted 3 years ago in Emotional

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Buzzing bee

cannotwait February 1, 2009 TX

So, this is more of a vent, but....I'm wondering if other brides to be are becoming less tolerant with annoying people (at work, etc.). I was raised to be nice to everyone....even to the point that I think people take advantage of me. However, lately, I really feel like I can't deal with certain people, even though I know they didn't do anything that bad. I think it might be related to the extra stress of wedding planning? Like, at this point in my life, I don't want their negative energy.

Let me give you an example: at my job, I also do a lot of 'volunteering' for our community programs outside of my day job. A couple of the girls there seem nice on the surface but have criticized my volunteer work in what I feel like is an overly public manner. I want to say I'M A VOLUNTEER. I sometimes agree with their points but don't care for their delivery. The one girl annoys me even more, bc she is only 19 and seems to be 'smug'. I could be overreacting, bc she did something that rubbed me the wrong way. I baked one round cake, and took it to work. She took a HUGE slice during a 1x1 I had with her, and then THREW most of it away IN FRONT OF ME. Um, could you at least wait until you are in the hallway? :P This was kind of an expensive type of cake too. OK, just needed to vent.

Anyone else annoyed with coworkers right now but biting their tongues?

3 years ago

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Helper bee

cyshas April 12, 2008 White Plains, NY; married in Arizona

I think what the girl did is annoying, but I'm not sure if your irritability is really related to the wedding.

Lots of people told me that wedding stress tends to cause brides to more irritable and stressed out than normal. But I think it depends on the person.

I've been married a couple months now, and it seems like I'm getting less and less patient with people these days. So for me it definitely wasn't wedding related like I hoped. I'm actually going to start going to a therapist to try to work on my negativity and irritability.

3 years ago

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Helper bee

NorCalBride 09/21/2008 East Bay

Don't worry I'm going through the same thing. At work and life in general! I work with a really annoying guy who for whatever reason thinks he's invited to the wedding. To talk about him would take up too much of your time right now... Ha Ha

Ever since I got engaged one of my friends started getting really negative about weddings and marriage. I thought she would be happy for me being that she knew what type of relationship I was in in the past. I, like many of you brides, have wedding magazines thrown all over the place. When she was at my house she picked one up and literally had something negative to say about everything! this is ugly... oh what a dumb idea... I would not have picked that color... what is she trying to look like a clown?, etc. I didn't know what to say to her...so I did what I don't think people should do during this situation. I stopped talking to her. I used work, my wedding planning, helping another friend with her wedding (i'm in a friends wedding the month before mine) as an excuse. I feel bad but I did not want to surround myself with negative thoughts of marriage (she had other nasty things to say about marriage.) I know that's not the right way to go about things but I do not have time for that. She actually left me a voicemail a couple weeks ago saying stuff like hey, i haven't talked to you in a while. I know you're busy planning your wedding and whatever... And whatever?!?!?! That bugged the crap out of me. I wanted to call her and just chat but my excuses came true. We're short staffed at work so I did get extremely busy and my friend's bridal shower and bachlorette party's coming up so I am busy with that too.
PLus I'm getting the house ready for my out of town guests that will being visiting for my upcoming shower. Less patience with annoying people? : wedding coworkers annoying vent Icon Biggrin