Post # 1
Ok Bees, I’m trying not to freak out here. I’m not BC pills but I’ve been tracking my cycle for over a year and it’s been consistantly 28-29 days. So based on that information, I calculated that I’d get my period one week after the wedding. Perfect right?
Well, for some unknown reason my lady parts have decided to rebel against me and I just got my period a week EARLY! That means if my period stays on schedule up until the wedding, there’s a very good chance my period will come on my wedding day. I seriously want to cry. I had this all planned out..or so I thought! My fiance and I are waiting until we’re married to have sex so that makes this suck even more!!!
I don’t know what to do. I don’t think there’s anything I CAN do but if anyone has suggestions please let me know. I know it’s too late to start BC pills.
Post # 4
Stress can mess up your cycle and I’m guessing with 2 months to go, you’re stressed. 🙂 I don’t really have any helpful advice, because I know being told to calm down is annoying! If you do end up being on your period on your wedding day, it’s doesn’t have to be the end of the world. Throw a towel down or discover the joys of shower sex!
ETA: It may not be too late to go on BC. If that’s a route you’re comfortable with, maybe consult with your doctor. My period was regulated with the first pack of pills, but of course everyone’s different.
Post # 5
I’ve heard of many bees having messed up periods due to stress. For me I’ve been on BCP for years, but sometimes things still go off for me. Luckily, I had no issues for my wedding. I do remember being really annoyed when I got spotting the day before my sister’s wedding though.
As to what you can do I don’t know of many options. You could talk to your doctor about starting birth control. I’ve also taken progestone for a while (for medical reasons). That will cause you to bleed while taking it so hopefully when you go off you would be back to your normal schedule, just shifted to avoid the wedding. Really though, you and your doctor need to decide if it’s worthwhile taking some form of hormones to avoid having your period on your wedding.
I have much sympathy for all the bees who have to deal with hormone issues around their wedding date!
Post # 6
Were you planning on going on BC after the wedding anyways? If so, now would be a good time to get started anyways. They usually take a week or two to become effective for PG-prevention, so it will be nice to not have to use back-up protection on your wedding night. There are several pills out there that allow you to “skip” periods, so that might be something to look into. I’m on Loestrin 24 Fe and haven’t had a period in 2 yrs (verified with OB/GYN that it’s okay). I wouldn’t wait much longer, but you’ve still got time.
Post # 7
I don’t think bcp are good for people really. I had a lot of problems on them and synthetic hormones aren’t a great idea long term in my opinion. BUT if you are comfortable with them you could try starting and just skip your period week of pills. You should talk to your ob.
Post # 8
my period lasted for 2 weeks which it never has done before (stress!) and thank God it stopped the day before. Expect crazy things if your not on the pill!
Post # 9
Not near the wedding yet, but my cycle has been CRAZY lately. I used to be fairly regular (I never kept too much track before I went on BC, but I knew when I was late). Went on BC, was regular as clockwork (duh), came off & was regular as clockwork for about a year-ish, and then all of a sudden my cycle started kicking my ass! : ( It started by lengthening by 2-4 days, then regular again for a couple months, then took an extra two weeks to show up (FUH-REAK-OUT!), and at one point I got my period THREE TIMES in a 28-day cycle.
I think it might have something to do with having gained so much weight since HS. : / Boo-hiss.
Post # 10
I don’t have any suggestions, but know that you aren’t alone! My cycle is typically 30-32 days, but in March I had a random 26 day cycle. So now it looks like I’ll start on the wedding day instead of a week after…BOO! I already let FI know that this is a possibility and we’re both crossing our fingers that stress will either make me early or late 🙂
Post # 11
My experience when I was on BC in the past is that it took a few months for my cycle to become regular. Since there’s only 58 days till the wedding I don’t think that’s enough time to adjust to BC. Not to mention, I’m worried it could possibly make my period even more unpredictable and I could have side effects from the pill.
My fiance and I talked about BC a few months ago and we both agreed that I wouldn’t take it (however, this was also when when my cycle was being normal!). I know that some people love BC…. but when I was on it in the past, the side effects didn’t outweigh the benefits. I’m sure if I were to take time to try different types of BC pills I might be able to find one that works for me but the problem is that I don’t have time before the wedding.
Post # 12
Ugh I am having the same problem! I’m not doing hormones, and my normally nice cycle got all jacked up and now I’m looking at probably being on day 1-2 on my wedding day. I am really hoping I stress out and mess it up again!
Post # 13
I’m having the same problem right now. Between all the different stresses, it’s been very hard to time. I won’t go back on BC – I’ve tried several different brands and all mess with me emotionally, plus there’s the potential for weight gain, etc. I’m just hoping it works out.
I did tell FI I might have it wedding night. He was like “Meh, don’t worry about it.”
Post # 14
So, what the plan for wedding night “activities” if you do have it? I haven’t decided yet whether we’ll go for it or not… what REALLY sucks is we’ve been waiting!
Post # 15
Try not to stress about it. It is what it is. You will still be married even if you decide not to have sex that night. I get being disappointed though, especially if you’ve been waiting. But it’s out of your control.
Not sure exactly what your issues were, but I know what you are saying about not being able to adjust to the pill. I’m not on it now (I have multiple problems when I’m on it), but I’ve been on it twice before. It takes me at least 2 full months for my parts to get in sync. Each time (2 different pills) I was on it I had breakthrough bleeding for the first 2 cycles which was almost as bad as a period at times. Ugh – who wants to deal with that right before your wedding?
Post # 16
@risingsun: I don’t think I’ll want to do any “activities” if my period comes on the wedding day. The first day of my period it’s really heavy and I feel bloated, crampy and not very sexy at all. If my period is lighter then maybe it would be okay to have sex. I’m pretty sure my FI wouldn’t be grossed out about it since he’s a paramedic and has probably seen much worse. Still, it’s obviously not ideal!
@atalante: It sounds like we had similar issues with breakthrough bleeding on the pill.