Post # 1
Hiiiiiiiiiiiii my wedding is 12/22/12! it’s less than 2 weeks away now.
I just wanted to say hello to fellow bees and see where they are on their planning and see if we can vent together :p
Let me start. I didn’t realize I was gonna be so detail obscessed. (although my BM’s looked at me and said “…really??” haha..) but anyway, I AM TOTALLY detail obscessed. I am a very guest oriented host, at home when we have parties, I’m ALWAYS found running around cleaning after people, replenishing food and drinks, and doing dishes and making more food…and then when things come down, that’s when I plop down finally and eat some cold leftovers… this part of me is overcoming me in planning a wedding too. I’m constantly worried about if people will be comfortable, would people say something negative about this, would people like that, etc etc etc AHHHHHHHH
it’s driving me nuts, and I am starting to really hate everyone. I’m just in a rotten mood. I’m not like lashing out on anyone …yet… but oh my gosh, just every stupid question, every inconsiderate requests or questions, and frankly, just hearing a “no” is making me grouchy.
our wedding’s so close to christmas and I really don’t want to be a ms. grouchy pants!!
on the other hand, I am also happy that some of the details for the wedding IS coming together…..I hope all the guests have fun and enjoy the day….:( that’s really all I’m hoping for.
SIGH. so what about you? am i going crazy :'( wahhh…
Post # 3
I’m not there yet, 6 weeks to go for me. I’ll let you know as it gets closer.
Post # 4
I think the 2-week mark is when my bridezilla started to peek out. There’s a lot to be thinking about, and then every single person you talk to wants to have the same conversation with you that you’ve already had 4 times earlier that day. I got tired of it.
The good news is that the more you think about things now, the less you have to think about them on the big day. I recommend positive visualization. Just sit somewhere quiet and really think about everything that will happen that day. Not just you, everyone. Think about walking down the aisle, handing off your bouquet, holding your Mr’s hand, etc. I did that a few times, for all the aspects of the day, and felt really calm abotu it all when it came time for it all to actually happen. It also helped me think of little details I was maybe forgetting.
Planning a wedding also taught me some faith/trust. I had a lot of vendors to coordinate, and you set them up so early on, by the time the wedding comes, you have to check in again and make sure everything’s set. But really, most of them came to ME to check in, and everything was LOVELY. So happy with all of it. Again, I thought about all the details ahead of time so on the big day, I could just relax and roll with it.
So exciting, just a little more than a week away! Make sure you have fun that day!!!
Post # 5
I’m getting married day before you son know what you mean. I’m a type a personality, plan every little detail. I too am a people pleaser so I really tried to make everything seamless. I am not lashing out at anyone, well maybe my mom a little, as I always do, but the banquet manager at my venue is HORRIBLE. I had most things planned in June, I’ve emailed her about 50 questions since last sept and never got a straight answer. All she said to everything was no big deal, no problem, we will discuss closer, etc. So eventually I gave up asking and just made decisions.
Low and behold she only works or cares when wedding is under week away because yesterday she expected me to complete a 6 pg document with all my info by today, um I have a job. Then she proceeds to call me 8 times and asked me the SAME questions I asked her in march ! I just said, yea you never answered that so couldn’t tell ya! What a beeotch.
Last whine, we were told we could do any size table, I clarified 12 tops, she said yes. Turns out she expects 12 adults to fit at a 72 inch round. Wtf, ESP my fiancé’s friends, they are huge! Never told me there was only space for 10 tables if we do stations, and wanted me to redo seating, squish my guests at tables and pay to reprint my place cards. I told her to figure it out cause 12 tables it is, shoulda answered my questions. I think most drama from planning comes from incompetent lazy vendors, annoying soon to be family who you include in bridal party to be nice more than the actual planning.
Post # 6
@glimmeringone: & @MrsOrange:
Thank you so much, yes, I hope towards the wedding it’ll get better…^^
gahhhh :'( I feel for you jen, I had some drama with people who just doesn’t understand their job 🙁
Post # 7
@sweetietooth: OMG i Could have totally written that post! I feel the exact say way. Maybe because we are wedding day twins! I am also freaking out as well. I want to make sure that everyone has a good time, that nobody is inconvenienced, that nobody complains and that everything goes perfect.
But i know that is not 100% ideal. weddings are not perfect. things will go wrong, some people will be grumpy.
I am really trying to embrace this and not be freaking out about every small little thing! we have 8 days till the big day…lets have a deep breath and a big glass of wine and lets remember that we are marrying our best friend and that is the most important thing!!!
Post # 8
@Aneta: OOO DATE TWIN!!! GOOD TO MEET YOUUUUUUUU <3 I know right? 🙁 i want it to be perfect, but i also know that’s not possible, so i’m gonna work as hard as i can until the DAY BEFORE and then just let it go and try to just enjoy the ride 🙂 i just hope it wont rain. oh well, otherwise i’ve pinned some awesome wedding photos in the rain! hahaha 🙂
(feel TOTALLY free to vent via messaging too!!! )
Post # 9
Hey date twins – UK bride here! No bridezilla moments yet but still plenty of time for one I think.
I’m also obsessed with detail – getting the right shade of silver crystals?! Also, FI’s wedding ring still not here yet which has freaked me out slightly. I actually think I’m quite calm, however, the scales tell a different story, I keep shedding weight and I don’t want to!
If we don’t catch up before, I hope you both have a fabulous day and I look forward to the recaps xx
Post # 10
@mel801: oi the days are going by so quickly! have fun girls!! I’m already unable to keep information in my brain lol i think the day of my wedding i’ll forget everything and will rely 100% on my MOH, planner, etc to keep me on track. i’ll be too busy having FUN 😀 hehehe
and YES can’t wait for the recaps too!