Post # 1
Where do I even start bees.
I have just under 3 months until my wedding day and I don’t have a dress. I won one in a competition and it arrived faulty. I exchanged it for a dress I didn’t love in the hope of being able to sell it to get money for a new dress.
My pop is incredibly ill and may not be alive for the wedding. This is freaking my mother out and she keeps saying that she hopes he is alive for the wedding so our family won’t be in mourning. I understand this and am very sad myself. My FIs nanna is having radiation for breast cancer and may not attend either.
I am feeling overwhelmed by all this. I can’t wait to marry my FI but so many things are going wrong and I am so sad for our family members who are ill. We were originally marrying in September but due to being double booked our date would be either August or November, and we picked August hoping for better weather.
I really don’t know what to do. My family is rushing around after my pop and I am trying to stay calm, comfort them, try not to get too sad about my pop and finish this wedding that will be here in 90 days. I’m scared that I can’t do it.
Post # 2
Oh honey, so many hugs for you.
My fiance’s grandfather just passed away with a month to go until the wedding. Everyone is obviously very upset, but in the end I think people are looking forward to the wedding as a new beginning and a bright spot in a difficult time. Life can be a nebulous thing, and you just have to take it as it comes, celebrating the good times and coming together during the bad times.
I sincerely hope that your pops is OK and is able to make it to your wedding day. But even if that can’t happen, have faith that it will be a wonderful day and he will be there with you in spirit. If he or your nanna are in hospital, then you can hopefully get them to call in via video Skype too so they can see the ceremony real time. My friend did this when her family couldn’t make the wedding due to illness, and it worked very well for them. You can get through this and your wedding will be amazing, I promise.
Post # 3
Are you UK? If so I know somewhere fabulous you can get a top brand gown for great prices. I got mine there last week mines a Sottero Midgley and I’m so happy with it, it makes me smile every time I sneak a peak at it! I found them on ebay and they specialise in sample dresses. Most are new with tags and she lists any faults. Mine had never been tried on its perfect and the whole experience of going there to try the dress was so special. They are so welcoming, my FI came too but stayed in kitchen whilst I tried on dress. Have a little look http://www.ebay.co.uk/sch/the_bridal_barn/m.html?item=271482986345&ssPageName=STRK%3AMEWAX%3AIT&rt=nc&_trksid=p2047675.l2562
My thoughts are with you and all your family, hopefully your happiness and day will the the ray of sunshine for all to enjoy and celebrate
Post # 4
Penang1885: Mojito77: Thank you ladies for replying and your kind messages. I am from Australia 🙁 there are not a whole lot of bridal shops around my area. I went to 4 today and in all honesty 3 of them were very junky and the dresses were blingy and very poorly made. I am in tears and feel unwell from feeling so anxious. I really just want a plain and simple dress I can wear a lace jacket with, or a dress with sleeves. There is nothing close to that around here 🙁
Post # 5
- Wedding: May 2015 - St Peter's Church, East Maitland, and Bella Vista, Newcastle
Where in Australia are you? Have a look at Brides Closet (http://www.bridescloset.com.au) – I am 99% sure I’ll be getting my dress there! Haley the owner is lovely and the dresses are not overpriced at all. The store is in Sydney but they sell online as well.
Post # 6
I went shopping for bridesmaid dresses just over 3 months out from my wedding and was told that I’d either have to pay a substantial rush fee per dress to get it in time on top of already expensive dress prices. The wedding market (or any market for that matter) is ludicrous in Australia!
I’ve decided to go the online option for my girl’s dresses, and I’m not only make huge savings (still paying the rush fee, but a much cheaper rate) and from what I can see the dresses look the same as the ones we were looking at in store!
They also do wedding dresses, and reviews look quite good!
Post # 7
So sorry for all u & ur family r going thru. Heres hoping that ur wedding can be a time where if even for a a brief moment can be full of love, celebration, & happiness despite the rocky road you all are experiencing.
Post # 8
MrsBlackCat: I am in Australia too! My sister was in a similar situation and she ordered from: http://www.tbdress.com/
She said she ordered 3 dresses in the end (they are about $150-$200) and got one she was really happy with, although she told me you have to be very strict about your requirements if you don’t want sequins or shiny material. It fitted her well, just had to be hemmed. If you would like, I can PM you a photo of her dress so you can see how it turned out.
Post # 9
MrsBlackCat: My dad passed away a little over a month ago, 72 days before the wedding. The wedding is in 6 weeks, and while we are sad, my dad was suffering and his passing was a blessing. Now we are just focused on the wedding. It’s really really hard, but we are getting through it and I’m still very excited to marry my FI. As for the dress, if you go to a bridal shop I’m sure you can get a sample off the rack. You could also try BHLDN. I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I know how you feel.
Post # 10
Would you consider a bridesmaid’s dress in white or ivory? Many of them are gorgeous, avoid the bling factor, and are priced far cheaper than most bridal gowns. Your guests will never know it’s a bridesmaid’s gown. I’m not sure which city you live in or nearest to, but in Australia it’s not like you can drive to the next big city and back in a day!! You might be best off looking at alternative options. This sounds nuts, but also try secondhand shops. Sometimes people donate their wedding gowns, and you can get them for a song. Alterations can be dramatic and turn it into the gown of your dreams in under three months, for sure. If all options are exhausted, you’re exhausted, and everything sucks, borrow a gown you liked from a friend who is already married.
My grandfather died four days before my wedding. It is a terrible situation to be in when beloved people are ill and you’re preparing a stressful event that is supposed to be full of joy. I am sending healing energy your way. I am so sorry you’re under so much stress.
Post # 11
I know this may be out there, but why not just have a simple courthouse ceremony for the family now and have the big celebration as planned in August?
Post # 12
Thank you all so much for your replies.
I never thought I would be writing this post and feeling so sad about my wedding.
I have had 2 weddings dresses that were both faulty (I won a dress, it was faulty, I returned it and exchanged it, the next dress was no better), and with a small budget I bought a pre-owned 80s dress that I love but needs some altering. So I am thankful I have found a dress more to my taste even though it needs a small amount of fixing up so it looks a little more modern.
I feel so anxious though! With all this added stress going on I feel all over the place. My new dress is ivory now so I will have to get new shoes, a new veil and different jewellery. I am hoping I can borrow some of these things if it is possible.
Post # 13
MrsBlackCat: Congrats on the new dress! I saw a picture of it in your other thread and it looks really cute on you. 🙂 You can get super cheap veils from places like Etsy or eBay (my elbow length veil was about $14 and looked really nice). Etsy is also great for bridal jewelry. And luckily nobody is likely to see your shoes, so it doesn’t matter if they don’t match perfectly!
Can’t wait to see your wedding day look!