Post # 1
This is really random but the thought keeps revolving around in my mind. When we first got engaged, and for several months, "engaged" made sense. We were planning a wedding and would eventually be married. When I hit the 2 month mark, I went through my "ohhhh crap this is permanent" phase, and got through that pretty well. But now I’m at 2 weeks and a day. And frankly, I feel like engaged does not adequately describe me. There is a revolving list in my head, constantly updating like those huge arrival and departure boards at a busy train station, of things to be done, items to be purchased, decisions to be made, people to be notified, etc etc. People who have never been within a month of getting married really can’t understand I don’t think. If you told me 3 weeks ago my brain would be like this, I would not have understood. I’m not even nervous, it’s just there’s never a moment where I’m not thinking about the wedding. Meanwhile I have 9 days of work left, an apartment to move into, and I still have to be a friend/daughter/sister/fiance, everyone else’s world does not revolve around me. It’s so surreal. I’m like a wedding alien walking the earth, and I feel like I’ve got some secret… like there I am in the grocery store, but the lady at the checkout doesn’t know that this pasta I’m buying will last past the engagement, I’ll be married when I eat it. Or the lady doing my nails, does she know that after this manicure, the next one will carry me through the rehearsal dinner, and the one after that will be in my wedding photos? Anyway those are just some random thoughts, does anyone else feel SO BIZARRE like they are sliding through life but not really participating in it the last few weeks before the wedding?
Post # 3
- Wedding: November 2009 - Cathedral of the Sacred Heart & The Jefferson Hotel
I know exactly how you feel! I’m 3 months out but I feel like I should be excused for the fact that I can hardly complete thoughts or sentences anymore because my crazy to do list is too big and mind consuming! We have been engaged for over a year and a half, and now this close its like we are REALLY engaged, its for real happening, not just this plan we have for months and months from now!
And your pasta comment made me laugh, that is something I would think too!
Post # 4
I’ve been having the exact same thoughts! Like "this is my last plane ride as a single woman" and "this is the last time I’ll fill up my car as a single woman." Come on, fill up my car? I’m so glad you’re right there with me ’cause I was starting to think I lost my mind!
Goodness, what am I don’t on WB anyway? I have lists to update!
Post # 5
I’m with you! I just saw a commercial for the Time Traveler’s Wife and thought, "I’ll be married when I go see that." Wedding alien is right, especially when our whole apartment is filled with either gifts from our registry or supplies for the wedding. And when I try not to talk about it–everyone else in my life brings it up. Right now it’s like we’ve got this time system set up, like B.C. and A.D. only it’s B.W. (life before the wedding) and A.W. (life after the wedding) and that’s how I’ve been looking at everything.
Post # 6
- Wedding: October 2009 - Ceremony: The Kraine Theatre, Reception: Midtown Loft & Terrace
Oh, this post just struck a chord with me. I was performing this weekend and was all like, "this is probably the last time I’ll be onstage as a single lady" in my head. Weird, right?
I keep saying, "After the wedding, we’ll…" — get our lives back!!
Post # 7
YAY I am so glad I am not the only one. I can’t wait to have my brain back "A.W."
Post # 8
We keep saying "After the wedding we can do this" or "After the wedding we can afford that". And I keep saying, "After the wedding, we can get a dog!". I’m not really stressed yet, but I’m ready to have our time and money going back to us and not to the wedding.
We aren’t going to be able to take a honeymoon but this weekend my fiance and I decided that we really should rent a cabin for a couple nights after the wedding just to be able to relax and have some one-on-one us time. Because we know the week or so before the wedding is going to be nuts and we aren’t going to have a lot of quality time together.
Post # 9
I am glad to hear I am not the only one that is over the planning. We are so ready to have our income back as well. It feels like we will never have money again right now. With every wedding purchase we end up being completely broke until payday comes around again and then we end up juggling bills because a dead line for one wedding thing or another comes up that has to be paid. We have finally caught our bills up but we are afraid we will fall behind again after each big purchase. Crazy I know but wow the stress is crazy and it is all over money.
Post # 10
Oh I can’t wait to have our lives back! I too keep thinking about all the things we’ll do “as soon as the wedding is over.” Someone mentioned Thanksgiving the other day and my first thought was, wow, we’ll be married…it will be our first holiday as a married couple.
I’m about 3 months out and feeling overwhelmed, I can’t even imagine what it’s like the month and weeks prior!