Post # 1
Hello Bee’s! My wedding is in a week. Of course I am very excited and a little nervous. Let me tell you why I am nervous. I am not the type that likes the spotlight. My personality type- Introvert. We are having a small, intimate wedding with just family. Followed by a reception of 80, family and close friends. It involves a day of socializing and being the center of attention. Eek!
Any tips or suggestions to help me relax before and during the big day? Sometimes I get so nervous I get lightheaded. Crazy, I know. Haha.
Post # 3
It’s your day and you will likely be gliding with happiness and giddiness. If anyone in particular makes you feel nervous, just nod and smile, and listen to them. You can get away with smiling and then moving off to collect yourself for a moment. My friend when she got married last year found the guests congratulating her to be a bit much (because of the repetition of it – even though she knew it was all heartfelt); she simply tookoff to a sideroom for 20 minuteswhilst noone was looking, with her mum and husband to have a little space to take it all in. Just relax, and know that you don’t have to play host every minute of the evening; let the guests entertain each other, and take a little break in a side area to breathe, enjoy the moment.
Post # 4
I’m the same way and it’s why I’m terrified of having a big wedding – even at approx. 80 people, I’m getting a little nervous. I’m just going to have to make sure there are lots of distractions at the tables to keep a lot of the attention off of me 😛
Post # 5
I’m a bit nervous too, and we’re only having 35 people! I think it will be more bearable that way. Should be pretty weird though, I wouldn’t normally throw a big party for anything.
I’m hoping to hide beside my new husband. He’s an introvert too, so we’ll have each others backs. One of us will talk, and the other can sit quietly for a minute while still looking involved. (Now to see if this actually works out. I hear it’s pretty normal to not see your new spouse that much during the party!)
Post # 6
We are 2.5 months out from our wedding and I am just now starting to realize what it means to be te center of attention. I’m very shy and an introvert and Ijust wanted a small wedding like you are having, but it has ballooned up to about 160-170… I am not looking forward to making my rounds to all the guests and having to talk to people! *que freak out mode*
Post # 7
It’s natural to feel nervous before the wedding. I found this post on A Practical Wedding to be really helpful: http://apracticalwedding.com/2010/01/your-wedding-is-not-show/ Remember, everyone is there to support you, not stare or judge. Your the reason for the celebration, not the center of attention.
Post # 8
I went to my cousin’s wedding and I spent about 2 minutes with her. Yes, it’s “all about you” but with 80 people you won’t be on the hook for too many public things, more going around and chatting at your pace. There are the dances and the announcements and the cake and such, but for most of those you can focus on your FI. When the dancing gets too much find the worn out old people and chat with them for a while….a bit less draining than the Macarena.