Post # 1
We are having a semi-destination wedding, we live in San Antonio. My family is in Minnesota and his is about a 6 hr drive away. I knew when we invited only 115 people that we would have more declines than usual. Today I got more RSVP’s back and the scales finally tipped: we have less people coming than those that have declined. FI is happy because it’s less people to feed and money is really tight, but I still can’t help but feel a little disappointed… :/
Post # 3
@Equine_Breeder: I’m sorry to hear this. 🙁
Post # 4
I’m sorry to hear that. At least you’ll know that those who come really love you.
Post # 5
I’m sorry : (
I was really stressed about RSVP’s because my inlaws doubled our invites but I slowly realized when the RSVP’s came back and especially the day of that every one meant to be there was there. Hope that helps : )
Post # 6
I get that, we have 110 people coming, 17 are my friends and family…I grew up on the other side of the country and most couldn’t make it, but FI family is here…I had a few breakdowns when my side kept declining but the just had to say to myself, this day is for us, we get to feel special, and stopped worrying about wasn’t going to happen because I can’t change it….feel better, your day will still be special.
Post # 7
Bummer. I get it, we pretty much had that happen to us for our anniversary party/reception thing. But that meant we were WAY under budget and got to take a fun trip with the money. Also, we really enjoyed getting to spend quality time with everyone there and not just say “hi thanks for coming.” Hang in there, it will be super fun.
Post # 8
Part of the issue is that a lot of unlucky things have happened. My mom’s family are all farmers and due to different weather conditions this year, the harvest will be happening right on our date. Another family isn’t coming because the wife broke several bones and went in for surgery yesterday from a motorcycle accident. My grandpa had a stroke and so they can’t come, and my cousin happened to set a date two months ago so that entire side of the family is all wedding-ed out. I don’t blame any of them for declining, but it still throws off my estimations by a lot! I guess it will jsut be small and intimate lol
Post # 9
I know how you feel – I wanted about 200 people at our wedding so we invited nearly 300.
We’re 3 weeks away and we’ve only got about 155 people attending 🙁
We still have to hear from about 20 of them but …. sigh …. I am really disappointed.
I just hope we’ll still have a good party atmosphere.
Post # 10
Sorry to hear that! 🙁 I think that can be an issue with destination weddings, even if yours is still a semi-destination, its still harder for people to attend.
Hang in there, you’ll have a beautiful day, and the people who will be there will be supporting you!
Post # 11
We have a similar situation. Because of my parents and my future in-laws we have 251 people invited and so far only 8 persons are coming. Unfortunately I’m not even 10% 251 was the final number. My in-laws may have invited more. The worst part of it is that nobody from there list has RSVP’d at all! I’m supposed to just take their word that they’re not coming. Its very frustrating.
If we have 100 guests we get a free day use room to get ready at the hotel. Otherwise we will have to pay for it but I dont mind. The less people that come the less I have to spend on this wedding. At this point I kinda wished I had just eloped.
Post # 12
Awww..it is hard 🙁 I also have fewer people coming than I anticipated… it’s hard, and I start worrying that things won’t come together as I planned – or how I spent too much thinking we’d have X number of tables lol.
Aah but it will all be ok in the end when the day is here and you are walking down that aisle 🙂 It really will!
Post # 13
@Equine_Breeder: unfortunately that’s the risk you take when asking people to travel. Just think of it like your fiancé, less people to feed