- 2 years ago
- Wedding: November 2014
Home stretch for the wedding planning……..majority of the time I jsut want to scrap the whole wedding and run away and elope with FI. The only thing I care about in this whole thing is marrying him…..but despite that there is a wedding thats needed to be planned because thats what my family (who is paying for the wedding) wants…..<br /><br />I have quite a few things this week that are driving me up a wall. My period is due right after the wedding so my PMS is starting to kick in, im already stressed and I work in retail so the holiday season is starting….all that combined I swear my head might actually explode this week. <br /><br />Just want to vent and get it all out and hopefully I will feel better!! <br /><br />#1 thing that is annoying me. FI groomsmen never actually RSVP’d for him and a guest. We knew he was coming. Deadline came and went with multiple reminders from him that we needed entree choices and to know if we was brigning his date to the rehearsal dinner (which FI parents are planning and paying for) and to the wedding…..groomsmen was indecisive. At first there was a stripper he was going to bring because he liked her and they were kind of dating (this is a whole nother can of worms I cant even get into. My parents were livid that he was going to bring some girl who he hardly knew and who was a stripper)…..but things were shaky with the stripper so he decided to bring a guy friend as his date to the wedding. This guy friend has a twin who was being brought as a date by a single friend to the wedding….then he thought he was going to bring another girl and not bring the guy…..so the guy friend asked if he could come since his brother was coming as a date and since he was childhood friends with FI. My annoyance with all of this is that…..the deadline has long since passed….and he cant figure out his date. He picks someone then changes in mind and changes the guests entree…..at this point FI just puts up with it but im annoyed at the rudeness of this that he couldnt figure this out earlier and put us in a rediculous spot to make up for his rudeness and invite extra people now. We were sick of changing and changing the meals and the seating that we just said F%^& it and said we will invite the twin brothers (less than two weeks before the wedding) and you can bring whatever girl you want and shes get X entree and thats that. So tech this groosmmen got TWO plus ones because we were so tired of him inviteing and not ivniting people to our wedding. I am still hoping he brings another girl thats not the stripper.
Annoyance #2 of this week. FI grandmother who was intially given 6 people to invite to the wedding made her way to a total of TWENTY guests, more than FI and I combined! Thats right his grandmother has more friends at this wedding than we do! She promised us that half of the people she invited woul not come and that she was just inviting out of a courtesy. She said some of them were very old and very sick and might not even make it to the wedding. So we took ehr word and let her “invite” 18 people……we made her promise not to invite any more. Then at my bridal shwoer she cornered my mother and put her on the spot to invite even MORE friends to the wedding….my nother naturally said yes because she was in a very uncomfortable position. So the invites went out…..here we are less than two weeks before the wedding and we only have his grandmothers word that some of these people are attending. No RSVP cards sent back and no entree choices picked. I sent his grandmother an email saying ‘We need entree choices for so and so and so and so, they dont need to send the cards if you can get a verbal response from them’ she responds saying ‘I need a few days to reach them. I do not ahve their contact information so I need to reach out to family. I am sorry I never should have invited them”…..so naturally I thought to myself “No S&*^ you shouldn’t have invited them if you dont even know how to reach them to ask if they are in fact coming and what they want!”…..well she got a hold of everyone…..and they are all coming and they all picked an entree. We whould ahve never taken her word and we should ahve said NO NO NO NO NO to all her invites. Out of the 170 guests coming to our wedding…..20 of them are her guests…..FIANCES GRANDMOTHERS FRIENDS MAKE UP OVER 11% OF OUR WEDDING GUESTS. We never never met, seen, or even heard of these people in our lives. FI parents each have 6 friends going and my parents have 10……This situation got out of control quick and we clearly did not handle this correctly. I am annoyed and there is nothing I can do about it except enjoy the day not knowing who 11% of our guests are….<br /><br />Annoyance #3. FI mother without speaking to my parents went and ordered bulk glow sticks for the wedding and halloween masks for the rehearsal dinner (we rspecifically requested NOTHING halloween be present for the rehearsal). She emails FI saying ‘I got all these glow sticks for your wedding!”….no question, no “is this ok, will her parents be ok with this, will you be ok with it?”….just a simple statement that she got glow sticks. FI called her and she said how fun it was at a wedding she went to and that she wanted that for our wedding. Again, my parents are throwing us the wedding so no consideration was given to my parents on this issue. So FI politely told her no….and we got the impression that the glow sticks might show up anyways so we had to inform the country club to confiscate any glow sticks if they seem them lingering around. She also dtiched my mother on my bridal shower when she offered to pay for half and then backed out….she also backed out on FI father (they are divorced) for the rehearsal….but she has all this moeny to get glow sticks, and masks and she said she was getting engrabved glasses and goodies bags for favors for the rehesrsal….she is also paying for bouquets and flowers for all the women at the rehearsal. Cearly she doesnt have moeny to help people with things she just has money to do what she wants. Cant control other peoples money and shes going to do what she wants despite what other people say or request so I am just going to have to shut my mouth and deal with it. Just another annoyance of the week. <br /><br />If I didnt have to work tonight I would totally be having a glass of wine….or two right now.