Post # 1
I know there are a million posts out there on the lessons learned. I tried to find them.
Anyways, I was reading Miss Hen’s recent post on her makeup trial and realized that I never shared one big thing that I totally spaced out on for the wedding.
-Keep a copy of your lip color WITH YOU on your wedding day
I was being the responsible bride, I bought my own lip color so that I could have it with me for retouching on the wedding day.
But I was also trying to be a techless, in-the-moment bride, so my clutch with my lipstick, phone, and wallet were all in my overnight bag that I gave to my coordinator to take over to the hotel where the reception was. She collected them at 10 am, after my makeup was done. But then we had some snacks and some beverages, and I needed to touch up before the wedding. And I DIDN’T HAVE MY LIPSTICK!!!!
I ended up using a color that my sister had that was similar but far more magenta pink than my poppy color. It was a tiny, little thing, but I wish that I’d thought to put my preplanning to work and given the lipstick to my Maid/Matron of Honor or mother, or someone to keep with us rather than sending it half an hour away…
What are some of your lessons learned? (big or small)
Post # 2
I learned how many people let you down on your wedding day and don’t turn up, even though they have been going on and on about how they’re looking forward to it all. Lots of money wasted! Other guests showed their colours at the reception by taking table decorations, candles and even tablecloths for themselves without asking. Basically grabbing anything they could get out of our wedding day!!
Post # 3
Jslack61: That just sucks!!! I am so sorry that type of crap hap[pened. I hope it did not ruin your day and you have some beautoful memories!!
Post # 4
- Wedding: August 2013 - backyard in the woods
#1 Have someone out front make sure all the important people are there before the ceremony starts. My grandma got lost and missed the ceremony because I was in the back didn’t know and no one out front thought to check. We ran into her leaving the ceremony. It made for some amazing pictures at least, but I wish she had been there.
#2 Pay attention when you look down quickly and have a highish neckline on your dress and super bright lipstick
#3 If you have something that you want to make sure you get to eat, like a custom flavored cupcake, box it up and put it somewhere safe with explict instructions/signage saying “Do not throw away or the bride will kill you!!’ Don’t just put it aside on the head table and expect it to be there later. I’m still upset about this a year later.
Post # 5
Not YET married but I have found some stuff already…
-Assume your guests will not read the fine print on websites/invites/etc. It’s better to be surprised and happy when they do than disappointed.
-Number your RSVPs.
-Delegate unpleasant tasks to people eager to be involved.
-No one cares about the details you stress over. Gold or Walnut chivari chairs? Will the chargers match perfectly or should I buy new ones? Do I need programs? What about (fill in the blank)? If your guests have good food, danceable music, and don’t have to shell out money for booze they will have fun.
Post # 6
1. Don’t expect people to rsvp. And if they do, check it again a couple of weeks before…
2. Be sure you have enough time to prepare and take into consideration that there may be delays in makeup, hair or other last minute issue.
3. Make sure you have a good photographer. I am very disapointed in my pro pictures.. We are having a ttd with another one just to have some decent pictures of the two of us 🙁
4. Have fun! Really. Have fun. Don’t stress over anything that day and enjoy your day, dance with your husband, friends and family.
5. Nobody will remember the flowers you used to decorate the chairs or the little details you think about night and day. They will remember that they had fun, that the food and the music was good and that the bride was happy and fun. I stressed about the center pieces, the lace on the tables and the napkins.. But that day i didn’t even see them. I was so busy with the rest that i forgot to check them. I asked my guestst afterwards if they remembered or had pics so that i could see them at least and nobody remembered those details… Nor took pics. I finally asked the provider to send me some pics of the restaurant recently decorated just to see what type of flowers i had on the tables…