Post # 1
Hey there, ever since I was a little girl I dreamed of tossng my bouquet as part of my wedding but now that I am older I find the whole “tossing it to single women” kind of stupid, what if I just invited all the ladies who want to come up, single or married? I am sure my two youngest sisters ( 19 and 16) and my neices ( 12 and 13) would be delighted as well as any bridesmaids or any woman at all, it does not matter, I just think it is a fun traditon. What do you think?
Post # 2
I’d say do whatever you think would be the most fun for your guests. We did a bouquet toss that included everyone (guys, girls, singles, couples, in-betweens) and gave away a “movie night” prize (movie tickets, gift certificates for food, etc), and our guests seemed to enjoy it.
Post # 3
BelleEtoile: The fun tradition is that the one who catches the bouquet is the next to be married.
You can do what you want, but you may not get the participation you desire.
Post # 4
BelleEtoile: If you want to invite all the ladies to the floor, I would suggest doing a non-traditional toss. Instead of flowers, you can do scratch ticket bouquet, or something similar. Make sure your DJ announces it.
I think you are right though, the older your friend group gets, the more awkward the bouqute toss gets.
Post # 5
We had all the women come out for our toss. It made the single people feel less awkward. Same for the guys. It just so happened that the people who caught them were both not married.
Post # 6
BelleEtoile: you can do what you like but it doesn’t make much sense asking married women to partake… could even give them bad luck!
Post # 7
I would totally come out and try to catch the bouquet if it was opened to all of the women. The tradition of being the next to marry is silly anyways- if you’re only throwing the bouquet because you ‘believe’ in that tradition you might as well set an age limit as well.
I always participated because I love having flowers on my table not because I secretly hoped it meant I would be getting married soon!
Post # 8
There are certain, symbolic gestures that have come to hold certain, cultural meanings. I think most of your guests would find it to be somewhat odd if you invited all women to participate in a bouquet toss, because that particular activity long ago came to have an agreed-upon meaning.
Although I doubt that anyone truly takes seriously the notion that the woman who catches the bouquet will be the next to be married (unless she’s already engaged or in a serious relationship and no one else competing with her for the catch has an established wedding date in the near term), I don’t think that the majority of married women or their spouses would find it charming for the married women to participate.
What you may want to consider is eliminating the toss altogether and creating some other fun activity in which the prize could be your bouquet. For example, you could invite all of the ladies onto the dance floor for a fun dance contest or something, with the prize being your bouquet.
Post # 9
We are inviting all of the women out for the bouquet toss and all of the men for the garter toss (although my FI will NOT be going up my dress to get my garter, we are nixing that event). Whoever catches the item will win a prize, we’re thinking a nice bottle of vodka/whiskey? Something fun that everyone can participate in, and with incentive!
Post # 10
BelleEtoile: We’re throwing a lottery ticket bouquet out to all of our guests! I’ve always found that the single people don’t want to participate or be called out like that. So…we decided to do something fun for everyone!
Post # 11
If the married people want to participate, they will. We had a traditional bouquet toss, “All the single ladies” playing for it, and we had some married women in there anyway. Maybe that’s a bit weird, but if they want to participate, no one is really stopping them.
Post # 12
Or…..you could give it to the woman who has been married the longest. I’m sorry but I hated the toss as a single woman and the feminist part of me was never happy to be prodded on the floor so that I might be next.
I do think it is a lovely gesture though to present it to a grandmother, honored guest, or the woman who has been married the longest. One of my DDs did an anniversary dance and gave the bouquet to the wife of the last couple standing. My last DD is getting married in a couple of months and is thinking about it too.
Post # 13
I can’t remember where I saw this idea…it might have been a bee…but someone tossed the bouquet to everyone who wanted to participate, men and women, single and married, and the prize was an Amazon gift card.
Post # 14
I went to my FH’s cousin’s wedding last fall and she tied a giftcard to the bouquet and every woman participated, not just the single women. I thought that was fun, and probably what we will do.
Post # 15
I’m asking all women to participate in the bouquet toss &, likewise, all men to participate in the garter toss. The winner of each toss will have a dance with the bride or groom versus dancing with one another.