Post # 1
We have been discussing honeymoon destinations for awhile and we have completely different ideas of what we picture for our honeymoon. I picture warm, beach, tropical destination, all inclusive like Mexico or Hawaii. FH wants somewhere cool, romantic, quiet, with scenery like Napa Valley or Mackinac Island. I started thinking about it and since I’m getting the wedding that I want (because he doesn’t really care) maybe I should just give in and let him have his honeymoon. Is there any way to compromise, or should I just let him have his way? Any other ideas? Thanks!
Post # 3
I say compromise unless you’re ok with going with his idea. I am sure you will still have fun wherever he picks. I kind of let DH pick. I wanted to go back to Puerto Rico, but he wanted to go somewhere different, so when we looked for cruises we compromised on places to go. It was fun doing it together.
I admire you for letting your FI choose where to go. I like his idea of romantic and quiet. You can’t really get that on the beach sometimes 🙂
Post # 4
Are there any warm, romantic/quiet places you’re interested in? or somewhere you can get a little of each? You can look into places like Florida, Carolinas, Georgia, that region for places that are scenic and romantic while still being warm. If there’s nothing you’re really in love with, and you really don’t care too much about where you go, let him pick.
Post # 5
I vote compromise. What exactly is he looking for if you go to somewhere like Napa? Is he a hiking adventure guy and he wants woods and outdoorsy stuff to do? Or he doesn’t like the heat from a tropical place or what?
Kauai offers a LOAD of outdoorsy activities, enouhg hikes that you will never even cover them in the span of a week, kayaking, river floating, SUP paddling, etc and there are plenty of very quiet areas. Either way my answer was to compromise, just as he is with the wedding. I highly doubt you are planning it all and he’s just hating it.
Post # 6
Personally I would let him do the planning since as you said you are getting the wedding YOU want and sounds like he isnt involved in the planning of it. So would be fair if HE planned the honeymoon.
Post # 7
Hmm this is a tough one! I love warm and sunny, so I’m with you! There are no all-inclusives in Hawaii, so it’s a bit more $$. Could you do both- maybe have a beach honeymoon then go where your FH wants in the summer or vice versa? Or maybe a cruise starting in San Fran (you could do Napa and Sonoma) going to Hawaii or Mexico?
Post # 8
@MsJ2theZ: In Napa he just wanted to tour wineries because we’re both big wine junkies. I’m just worried there isn’t enough to do besides drink all day lol Hawaii is my absolute first choice but it’s a lot of traveling for the short time we have off (5-6 days), FSIL went there in Jan and it looks awesome!
@pmerr: I have been looking at Florida possibly the Keys but that’s still more of what I want lol we really want to go somewhere we wouldn’t likely go back to once we had kids because we know we’ll take them to florida, disney, etc eventually.
Post # 9
I guess I should mention we went on a Caribbean cruise in January, even though FH was sick for most of it, and did the whole beach thing, so I’m learning towards his ideas a little more now.
Post # 10
Well wine country is certainly fun and romantic! You could also play to spend part of your time in Napa and part of it around Santa Monica/Venice Beach, etc, that would give you a bit of beach time and variety
Post # 11
I voted for the compromise as well. What about renting a car and driving from Napa down to LA where you can enjoy those beaches (Venice, Santa Monica, Zuma Beach is a favorite of mine) – the drive would be about 6-7-8 hours depending on what route you take/traffic/etc.