Bees, I need some advice. A little background: FI is extremely uninvolved in planning our wedding, mostly because he works a lot and I don’t mind planning on my own. But I’ve been really overwhelmed by choosing music, so on his day off this week I told him he had to help me choose all the songs for our ceremony as well as songs for stuff like cake cutting, etc. at the reception.We got most of it all worked out fine, which I was extremely happy about!
For the processional (which will play for him walking in, our families being escorted in, and the wedding party), I said it was totally up to him and I’d love for it to be the one thing in the wedding that he chooses on his own. Afterall, I’ll be inside and won’t hear the processional 🙂 I showed him a playlist of 20 or so choices I had, ranging from really classical (Pachelbal), to a few modern songs with lyrics. There was a lot of Vitamin String Quartet in there too. He’d never heard of Vitamin String Quartet and ended up getting distrsacted from my playlist and spending a few hours (literally) listening to a bunch of their songs from different albums.
Then… he came and told me he’d decided on the processional… Vitamin String Quartet’s version of Stairway to Heaven… not on my list
Ugh! You guys, I have nothing in particular against this song, but is it really wedding-appropriate? I gave him sooo many choices of songs I liked. To me, both the original and this version sound kind of depressing and slow.
So anyway, I would love some feedback: first of all, am I crazy for thinking that the song isn’t wedding-appropriate? Would you be weirded out if this played at a wedding? And secondly, should I just let it slide and know that this will make him happy, or should I try to make him compromise and choose a different VSQ song?
I love it and a lot of the older guests will recognize the tune. Did you look up the lyrics? Lots of lady in white (bride or angel?) I vote to keep it, especially since you told him to pick. If you put down his one choice he likely won’t want to give any other opinions in the future.
You told him to pick it and then gave him a list of songs you wanted. Sounds like someone doesn’t like to relinquish control. Let it slide and let him have this one thing. You’ll love it on your wedding day because (1) you wont even hear it lol and (2) he picked it and thought of your wedding when doing it.
Our entire wedding party, plus me is proceeding to VSQ’s arrangement of Bohemian Rhapsody, which has nothing to do with love and weddings at all. I’ve worked a wedding where the bride and bridesmaids proceeded to VSQ’s Don’t Stop Believing. Everyone loved it.
Whatever you want to be appropriate is appropriate. You can say something like “Well honey, maybe this particular song isn’t really us” if you’re totally not into it but be ready with suggestions on the same vein of things that you do think are more you. VSQ has a lot of good old rock songs that would be more in keeping with the theme of love and devotion.
My friend did Apocalyptica’s cover of Metallica’s “Nothing Else Matters”. It worked so well for a processional song. I was sooo jealous that they did it because I totally wanted to do that song. Aghhh, so good.
And funny, I was thinking of things yesterday, and was TOTALLY thinking about Stairway to Heaven. I was like, “I wish their was an orhcesteral version!” Thanks for showing me this! 😀
@Edelweiss: LOL I love this…I guess because I can relate. My FI would lovvve this.
Another poster recently posted about a Mr. Peanut statue that was erected on her wedding site. My FI response, I want Mr. Peanut to walk me down the aisle. I had to learn Mr. Icetea that he will be walking himself down the aisle ahaha!
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