- 7 years ago
- Wedding: March 2011
I had a rather emotional day over an email that my FFIL sent to me and my FH. It still is erkking me so of course I come to the Bee to vent and ask if I should let it go like I am pretty sure I should or say F it and tell him what I really think.
So this is the deal My Future in laws live in Michigan and my wedding is in New Orleans. Both of my parents and all of my siblings are also having to travel. WE are paying for about 95% of the wedding. My dad gave us about $1000, my mom did about the same and then his parents had said they would pay for our $300 rehersal lunch. I was fine with all of this. His parents have told me multiple times since we got engaged that our wedding is inconvenient, cost too much, and that it should be in MI. I am sure other negative comments have been said in regards to money also. I have never said anything even though I find this to be very rude and it hurts my feelings.
Then last night around 1:00am his dad sends a random email without his mom knowing saying about how money is tight for them and how hard it is for them to pay for our wedding to the point that his moms sister is paying for EVERYTHING for them to go to the wedding. It also stated that we should think about inviting her to our reh. lunch since she is paying for it. This blind sided me and really erked me because I felt like it was done behind my back. I had even told them before if they couldn’t pay for the lunch to just tell us and we would cover whatever they couldn’t.
My FH called and talked and talked and talked to both of his parents and I guess his mom didn’t want us to know because it is a LOAN not that she is paying for it. I personally feel like telling them not to worry about it and take care of it myself somehow. My FH says not to because it will hurt their feelings. Either way I don’t want things done behind my back and I want to be able to give credit to the person that is actually paying for things for the wedding.
The thing I want to tell his dad in a nice way not in a bitchy way is that I understand they are having a fiance hardship and I am sorry that our wedding is causing them fiancial issues. I want to explain to him that all my family is also traveling (he thinks that most of them live in New Orleans area) and explain to him why we picked to have our wedding in New Orleans.
I just want to scream that I understand about the money issue with them and would they please not tell me again in the next 3 months that my wedding is an issue.