Post # 1
I’m not into wedding cake (or birthday cake for that matter, no particular reason) so I’m having a Viennese hour instead. However our moms really want us to have a symbolic wedding cake just because it’s traditional. The caterer is throwing in a 1 tier at no additional charge to make them happy. The 1 tier will serve 18. We are expecting 100. Is it tacky that only 18 people will get a slice of “wedding cake” even though we’re not having a cake cutting ceremony? The Viennese is really extensive, a variety of cakes, pastries, cookies, brownies, mousses, and fresh fruits all made fresh by the caterer. Should we leave it like that? Nix the 1 tier? Go for the 3 tier in addition? I think there will be more than enough dessert to go around. Would you be insulted if you didn’t get a piece of the designated wedding cake?
Post # 3
Yeah if only 18 people got the cake it would be… putting your guests in tiers? I guess, which is not really so good.
You can just ceremonially cut that tiny 1 tier cake, then have them wheel it away immediately and bring out the viennese hour stuff. Freeze the rest of the cake and eat it on your anniversary or something.
Post # 4
@Aquaria: I would cut the cake but not serve it. Take it home and share with your family or put into the freezer for your 1st anniversary:)
Post # 5
I guess I don’t really see the point of having a cake for “tradition’s” sake if you are not going to have a cake cutting ceremony? I’ve seen other people talk about having a small cake just to have a cake cutting ceremony, but never a small cake just for the sake of a cake physically being at the reception. (Not saying that you need to have a cake-cutting ceremony, either).
I would definitely not be offended or anything, but I just think it’s a little silly. But I understand sometimes you have to do things to appease the parents…
Post # 6
Ok, I get that you are not into cake… it just isn’t your thing.
BUT I think that if you plan to have a Wedding Cake, then you want to have one large enough to feed all your Guests a slice (if they want one).
Otherwise, nix the Wedding Cake entirely.
The ideas that Bebealways: and yourself have put forward above… with having a smaller amount of Wedding Cake available… or a cake that is cut but not served, IMO seems RUDE
And would no doubt have Guests wondering “Whatever happened to the Wedding Cake I saw… and HOW COME I didn’t get any ??”
Doesn’t matter whatelse you have available… people are going to notice this aspect. Because for many Wedding Cake is “a thing” they like / enjoy.
Hope this helps,