Let them eat cake! But when?!

posted 3 years ago in Reception
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Commenting to follow. I’d also like to know. 

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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2014 - Brazil Room

In my wedding, it was the last thing on the timeline. I had a morning wedding, but not sure if that makes a difference. It went: Ceremony (15 min), Photos and Appetizers (1 hr), Lunch served (45 min), Toasts, First dance, Entertainment (which was story-telling from our friends who were actors, 30 min)… then the cake cutting about an hour and 15 mins before clean-up.

The only thing I would change would be the size of my cake… not so much the timing. Even though I had appetizers, dinner-sized lunch, and a full stocked candy buffet, my cake ran out. Several people did not get any and the slices were too small. I ordered enough for 100 people and I had 93 people, but alas, I think some people went in for seconds before others got their first slice. I usually hear the opposite… that there’s usually tons of leftover cake.

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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Villa Celeste

As blasphemous as this might seem, we don’t really have a definitive timeline. Our wedding ceremony will take place at 5:30 pm, and we’re hoping to get everything going party wise by around 6:15 ish. The cake cutting isn’t huge for us, (we are having a destination wedding with 30 people) so I’m thinking we will do it once everyone has had dinner, and the dancing part of the reception will start. I don’t plan on making a huge ordeal over it. Just having the cake cut, and whoever wants it can grab a piece if they feel inclined. 

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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

You can do either.  It is more commonly cut after dinner and served later.   We are cutting our cake before dinner.  Our venue likes to do it like that because many people miss seeing the cake cutting later on, and this way we can just enjoy it rather than have to be pulled away from conversation with our guests to go and cutt the cake after dinner.   However, even though we are cutting the cake before dinner, it will not be served until maybe 30 minutes after dinner (we are serving quite a large meal and hopefully this will give people time to disjest and be ready for sweets (our cake will be on a huge sweettable with many other desserts as well).  

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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

We are cutting the cake right after dinner. 

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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

We’re cutting the cake right after dinner/after we thank everybody.  Then we’ll go into the first dances/dancing while the rest of the cake gets cut in the back.  At least, that’s my understanding of how my DJ recommended it.  I’ve seen it all different ways – though never before dinner I don’t think – and the only thing I would try to avoid is cutting the cake too late.  People seem to feel they can’t leave a wedding before the cake is cut, and if you wait until late in the night, people get cranky… certainly cake-lovers like myself get cranky!

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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

notyouraveragebride:  Our wedding was in the UK so not sure if that makes any difference. We served dinner and dessert, had speeches and then cut the cake just before the first dance. The cake was then served later in the evening for when people were getting hungry from all the dancing.

In part we decided this because we wanted all the important stuff covered before the photographer left, but it worked pretty well.

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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

notyouraveragebride:  we did it when we walked into the reception…. we figured some people see it as “”oh I guess its coming to a close” so we didnt want people to think the party was ending early.

Our Timeline was basically: BP entrance and then me and DH were announced… we walked/danced in and headed straight for the cake table (guests were all seated) we went behind the cake, did the cutting, and then the DJ announced we would do our first dance so we did that and the first course was brought out as we finished.

We had a multi course dinner so we incorporated the speeches and father/daughter, mother/son dances in between/during courses so the party could get started soon after it was done….instead of either waiting for speeches and everyone gets ansy, and then after dinner is done people dont want to sit around and wait for 3 “formal” dances before they can get up and mingle/dance/get a drink etc…. The cake was then served later on with the late night snack…..

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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

We cut our cake right after dinner.  Then as the cake was being served, our guests were free to grab coffee/tea.

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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

Our reception timeline went like so:

  • Enter reception room
  • FOB welcome speech (short and sweet words from my dad)
  • Buffet opens (bride and groom go first)
  • After we were done with our meals, but while guests were eating, we had a speeches from the groom, MOH and best man
  • After the speeches, we went around to each table and greeted the guests and mingled
  • Cut the cake, serve
  • After it was all handed out, we had our first dance
  • Father/daughter dance
  • Mother/son dance
  • Open dance floor

Overall I was happy with it. I think I underestimated how long it would take to cut and serve the cake though. The cake was on the side of the dance floor, so we couldn’t do our first dance until they were all done cutting. If the cake had been placed elsewhere we could have done the special dances while it was being served. That would have made it a touch nicer, but it was still swell!

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