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well... my guy is just a little too small. i love making love with him but sometimes i can barely feel it... any one else have this problem?
I think there are certain positions that can create a "larger effect"...
http://ca.askmen.com/dating/love_tip_200/209_love_tip.html
Just slip them in without talking about it though... no need to make him self-conscious!
There are other ways to be happy. Focus on those.
My guy is perfect for me, but you know what? He is sooo tall that if he was proportional for his height he would be small if he was average height.
All in all it's his and he is yours. The emotion between you is what should matter most. He can't change it and would you prefer to change him for another size? I think you might be disappointed in the quality of the next guys character. So to be honest size doesn't matter.
FI would be so upset if I ever posted something like that. I love him for who he is-not the size of his weenie.
If its any consolation FH is the largest I've been with and frankly I don't love it. So in my case size matters but in a bad way. It sometimes makes sex a little uncomfortable and there are certain positions we can't really do b/c it starts to hurt but we have learned what works and what doesn't. How long have you been together? Time often changes things.
PP who made the comment about her posting this, thank goodness its the internet and anonymous.
@SoontobeMrsA: Agree 100%
But also @smith2be: agree 100%
Mother Nature saw fit to be (very) generous to my SO in all aspects of his physique and when it comes to um... certain parts (ahem) it can be a mixed blessing when it comes to my comfort levels. But it's really not a problem! I don't feel it's right to go into detail here but so long as both of you are loving and understanding, whether big or small, you will both do what's best for you when it comes to lovemaking.
I would recommend following the above advice and looking into other positions. You may be able to find something that works better for you.
I personally tend to disagree with the "bigger is always better" theory when it comes to member size. FI is right around average, I'd say, but possibly on the smaller side of average. He's pretty tall, and a bigger guy to boot, and I know that his size below the belt is something he was a bit insecure about... He has no reason to be though. He's absolutely the best I've ever had, and I tell him he's a stud all the time. I think the way two people "fit" is more important that size in general.
Gah!! NO!! Size doesn't matter... it's really what you do with it! An ex wasn't really blessed in that department, but we had great sex. My FI is packing & it's great-- however, if he were smaller it wouldn't phase me any.
My FI would be so hurt if I had posted something like this! Honestly, what if your man posted about something about your body & how it wasn't good enough? I know my boobs could be bigger & my ass could be smaller, but my FI loves me & my body! Big & small parts included haha :)
Don't sweat the small stuff & enjoy the intimacy & closeness with your man!! Sex is sex... making love is about your connection! :)
Go invest in a Kama Sutra book and figure out some, er, new fun positions. They also make sex toys that, ahem, add "bulk"
agreed :/
OP:
Have you thought about your grip?
Grip totally matters.
You should try doing some kegel exercises, start with 10 a day, increasing the length of the hold and amount as you exercise your pelvic floor. I did these after childbirth and they made a WORLD of a difference. Seriously.
@SoontobeMrsA: Agreed....
Size does NOT matter ... bigger isn't always better by any means. My FI would be so pissed if I ever posted something like that.
@missmouse29: VERY good point... good advice!
wow you ladies are very touchy about this... and yes i do my exercises and have have a tight.. you know! i wasn't trying to complain i just thought the intimacy page would be a place where almost anything could be said.. apparently not. i'm really not sure this site is for me, half the time the women respond very strangely to waht i have to say.
half the time the women respond very strangely to waht i have to say
which therefore implies half the time people respond positively to you so i guess it depends on if you are a half glass full kinda gal or a negative nelly
Oh honey, that's not your problem. It's his problem. Smaller guys are supposed to make up for it by trying harder. Does he know he's not doing it for you?
@Impatiently waiting: some of your topics are a little strange though!! Your title is "let's admit it, size matters" Not everyone is going to agree with you. Some of the replies had a ton of good information on tips & tricks to get you feeling more... :)
I've had my share of controversial posts around here... not everyone will agree with you & you have to be prepared for that! I hope you feel more comfortable with posting in the future. WB is generally filled with lots of support & tons of ideas. It's a great place to "bee" haha
Size does matter to this bee, and to be quite honest Hubs knows it. He knows that he needs to make up for it by preforming mind blowing Oral(which he does). I get oral every night before bed from him. He's such a good boy, he does that then we snuggle eachother to sleep. He also knows to use my favorite toy on me, I have a nice big dildo that he from time to time gets jelous of but he knows why, its bigger than him and gives me great pleasure. You know the kind, Long & Thick with the veins and balls too;-)
Everyone is different and to me it DOES matter and my hubby knows it, LOL. I wouldn't have married a man who couldnt' please me and in my history the bigger the better (unless it's really insane, came across one of those, and then it's scary). I know people say you should love them for who they are, and obviously I do, otherwise I would have just hunted down another big one ;), but I don't think I would have fallen in love with someone who couldn't please me sexually. I know there are folks who might say that you shouldn't have sex with someone until you love them, but that's just not the way I do things.
OK I'm not trying to be mean, but if this isn't the site for you, then it's not the site for you. You've already posted about feeling like people are mean or aren't being supportive. If that's how you feel, you either leave, or accept that weddingbee is host to many different people with lots of opinions. I don't understand the thought that you can post anything on the intimacy board and people are just going to agree with you. That's just not the case. You're going to get honest feedback. Assuming that everyone thinks size matters is going to get you some comments of people who just don't agree.
@Impatiently waiting:Size does matter to me. My SO is not the best I have ever had but he is good. I enjoy being with him and he knows how to work it to make me happy:0)
WOW to some of the stuff posted on here. Sex is a top reason for divorce. Meaning---if there is something that you aren't happy with sooner or later it's going to come to the surface. I know sex ruined a past relationship of mine. I'm talking "I like you...but I don't want to have sex with you." It's a HUGE DEAL. I can't fathom being with someone but complaining about his you-know-what. I believe I posted something like this in the recent circumcision board. Maybe I'm just one of those people that believes something along the lines of "You love your man? You love ALL of your man."
I broke up with a guy in college because he was just NOT... doing it for me, to put it nicely. I really liked him but come on, there's only so much great conversation I can handle.
@ohheavenlyday: There are so many, many important things to be on the same page about. Sexual compatibility is one of them! That, and finances. UGH. SO and I are doing the finance talk thing right now...fairy tales never mention this part lol.
My husband is average and I know that I definitely have to ask him to try harder in specific positions because, lets face it - I want to get pleasure out of sex too lol! I find that the position definitely plays a huge factor in whether I feel more pleasure or not. I really do think sex is important though, I mean there are times where Hubby was satisfied and I wasnt, and honestly I was disappointed - it would suck to be disappointed all the time. I think its just something you need to sensitively talk about as a couple and figure out what works - thank goodness for sex stores ;)
There is nothing wrong with how you are feeling though, I definitely understanding wanting sex to be fun for you too! I think some bees had some good sites and positions to take a look at that might help - practice makes perfect and it sure can be fun :)
I just want to say that this is officially my husband's favorite WB thread ever.
He told me so. He thinks this whole discussion is hilarious. I'm not entirely sure why... but it's good to hear him laugh. :)
BAHAHAHA he's probably just surprised anybody on WB is talking about sex because half the time posters are like "TMI ALERT!!!!!!!!!!" and you think it's going to be really bad and then it's just like, "I start my period tomorrow."
I adamatly disagree "size doesn't matter" oh hells yes it does. (to me anyways.) bigger isn't better, but small sucks and so does huge. To be frank I wouldn't stay with a man if he was on either side of the spectrum. Call me whatever you like. But I'm being honest. I'm all for good and average.
@ohheavenlyday: I always hope something really juicy or nasty will follow the TMI posts but nothing ever does lol
DDW=6,900 posts. Mr. DDW = 1 post. This one. On a penis thread. It took me 6,900 posts and a hilarious discussion about size to sign up for this lovely piece.
So besides watching house hunters on HGTV and eating a hershey's kiss, you all have been tonight's entertainment. Thanks ladies! (and maybe some gents?)
FI just say what I was reading and said “Why the hell are you on that board?” hahaha
(I swear, I did NOT make him sign up. But he does love the Hive. He reads over my should all the time. :D)
@Mr. DDW: My DH loves for me to read him the "funny" posts. At times he actually will reply under my name. I should make him sign up LOL. Welcome to the boards!
@daydreamwanderer: I’m sitting here going who the heck is DDW? haha welcome Mr DDW
I told mine and he told me I better be bragging. LOL.
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