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Well I just had my shower this weekend, and my FMIL flew herself and my FSIL to Ohio from NY (on a holiday weekend no less) to be here for it! I was pretty surprised/happy because I told them I absolutely did not expect them to come due to the cost of flying, but she just said she wouldn't miss it for the world. :)
My FMIL gets out the littler flatware that I like to use (I don't like using the big forks, I like using the salad forks). A big thing is that she's making me my veil for the wedding since I couldn't afford the one I loved. She also works in the shoe section of a department store and when a shoe in my size (9.5 - hard to find) is on sale a lot she'll get it for me (I have Lacoste sandals she got for $5). Both her and FFIL like to help us out with little things like toilet paper and paper towels when they can too and they have extra since they know how little we both make.
@CorgiTales: Aww! That is so sweet Corgi!
Mine cook things for me from time to time. They also call me frequently just to chat. They joke around with me and want to spend time with me, which is a great feeling!
I like this topic. :)
My inlaws-to-be live across the country and my FI isn't close to them (not estranged or anything; they just don't have a lot in common). But his parents have always been welcoming to me. His mom tells me she loves me and how happy she is that I'm going to "take care of her little boy." Although that phrasing squicks me out a little bit, I can recognize and appreciate the sentiment behind it. :) She is also making us a quilt as a wedding gift. Finally, although I know she's super excited about the wedding, she's been really careful not to intrude or do anything that might seem overbearing. (And I try to include her wherever I can, but it's hard since she lives so far away and my mom is hosting the wedding at her house.)
Mine hosted a mini Thanksgiving for me last year when then-FI was away in Africa so I wouldn't be alone on such a big American holiday.
I was having a meltdown last night (hormones) and my MIL met me in their village when I got off the bus, gave me a hug, brought me to their house for dinner and FIL drove me home when we finished (DH had to work overnight).
Anytime they're going to a concert or show they offer to get us tickets and invite us to join them.
When we went to their house to announce we were engaged DH's mom flipped out and jumped around the kitchen screaming. DH's dad had to excuse himself because he got so emotional (happy I hope!) And we got the same reaction when we told them we were expecting a baby (before we knew we were expecting two!)
They both gave speeches over our wedding weekend - MIL at our rehearsal dinner and FIL at the reception - and both were so kind and so happy that I was marrying their precious son.
They also went above and beyond in contributing to our wedding fund (as did my parents). Because of them we were able to celebrate two weddings and go on a fabulous honeymoon.
They're not perfect (who is??) but I am really blessed to have them.
My inlaws are great people and so supportive of FI and I. They do a lot of things that really help us out.
For our wedding they traded in their time share for a condo in Napa and gifted that to us for our honeymoon. They also gave us a bunch of frquent flier miles to pay for our flights. So generous and nice!
Day to day they do a lot for us as well. My MIL bought me a sewing machine for my birthday in August and is teaching me how to sew.
We were also hosted by them for Thanksgiving which was an awesome time.
My mother-in-law sends my husband and I little “care packages” every so often. She’s a workaholic whose hobby is shopping, so every other month or so, she sends us new tops/sweaters/wine glasses/wallets/whatever. She has great taste in clothing….and honestly, at this point like 60% of my work wardrobe was purchased by my MIL!
As much as my MIL stressed me out during wedding planning, we are back to normal again...phew! She does so much for us, as does my FIL. They help take the kids to school and pick them up so we don't have to take time off work or pay for daycare. We can call them and they will drop whatever it is they are doing to help us out in any way. I cannot even express how much they do for us, very fortunate to have great in-laws.
We live about 10 minutes away from my FILs and 3 hours away from my parents. I get very homesick and FILs have really accepted me into their family as another daughter. But... specific litte things... well, his mom just bought me a Harry Potter shirt for my birthday.. it's the dumbest thing, but might have been one of my favorite gifts EVER. Haha.. they also just drove 3 hours up to my parent's house for our engagement party and bought us the most beautiful toasting glasses.... I started to tear up, it was just so unexpected and sweet.
Haha, they are a little crazy and do get on my nerves sometimes... but what family doesn't? I really love them and appreciate everything they done for us. Yay for in-law love!
My in laws are amazing. My MIL and SIL's and I get pedicures together monthly... so special to be including in their mother/daughter time.
My FIL wants to be super involved in the wedding planning, which weirded me out at first, but I think it's really sweet!
At first things weren't perfect with the FIL's but things have warmed up and I feel a lot more confortable aroung them.
Something FMIL does that I think is adorable is that she gives people gift bags/gift baskets for Holidays. Easter, Halloween, Fourth of July, you name it she has a gift for it. I am in my mid 20's and I get so excited to get a Halloween bag.
At Thanksgiving dinner she gave SO and me a bag full of Christmas decorations because SO and I just moved into a place together. We have a Christmas tree but we don't have any little decorations.
Aw...I LOVE this thread. It's nice to see some positives mixed in with all the inlaw complaints.
FI's parents have NEVER complained about the fact that we visit my family on holidays MUCH more often than we visit them. My family is really high maintainance about holidays, and I really appreciate the fact that his family just lets it be.
My future in-laws are great. I appreciate how they immediately (even before we were engaged) considered me a part of the family. I also love how SUPER excited his parents were when we did get engaged. My mom never really shows emotion (good or bad...) so it really helped that his mom was SO animated and excited for us.
FMIL is knitting me a scarf!! I'm so excited about it. She made one for her daughter first (very first knitting project ever!) and I get the second one. I'm happy she was thinking of me. She also is great with things like helping us move, buying us little things she thinks we might need/want, and being helpful without being overbearing. She said just to let her know what she can do to help with the wedding, but isn't giving us any grief about it being non-traditional, even though she's a devoted Christian and would like us to have a traditional ceremony.
Just this week my in-laws invited me over for dinner on Thanksgiving so I wouldn't have to eat alone (we celebrated Saturday since DH worked Thursday), picked up a newspaper for me in case I wanted to look through the sale ads, and dropped off deer tenderloin, steaks, hams, and stew meat at our apartment. My mother-in-law, together with my mom, catered the wedding and they watched our dog while we were on our honeymoon. They are really wonderful people! We live three streets away but they give us our independence, which is nice.
My FMIL is great! My FI lost his dad about 10 years ago so it's just her. She invites us over for dinner often, watches our dogs and is just interested in our lives which is so nice.
She will phone me just to chat and see how my day/week is going. She is really happy with the wedding planning and is not pushy at all.
She also makes me home made cottage chesse perogies! Yum! We went for supper the other day and she made fresh perogies, 2 kinds since FI only likes potatoe and then made sure to pack me leftovers for lunch the next week.
I am so grateful for my wonderful in-laws! We had a honeymoon that was incredible and all thanks to them! They gave us a big chunk of cash and told us to go all out on a trip of a lifetime and NOT be practical with it (which is hard for us to do sometimes!). I'm so glad we took their advice and we had a fabulous honeymoon in Hawaii that neither of us will ever forget.
On a sappier note, I'm so excited to have them to be grandparents to our (future) children. Both sets of my grandparents were hardly involved in my life. I remember being jealous of all my friends because their grandparents would take them to all these places and buy them all these clothes and do things with them and I never got any of that. So I'm so happy that my children will have grandparents that will *want* to spend time with them and to spoil them like grandparents should.
My FMIL has taken it as her personal mission to find me brooches for my brooch bouquet.
That and she buys me candy whenever she goes home to Scotland. Yum!
My FILs have taken me in as part of their family already. They've been more than generous when I needed some $ for tuition or a car repair, loaning me the $ instead of having to have to go through the bank. They make my family's style of mashed potatoes at holidays since they make theirs differently, and on 'ham holidays' like Easter or Christmas, they make a special little chicken or turkey since I'm not a ham fan. Just sweet little things they don't have to do but always do. :-)
I LOVE my inlaws! My FMIL went dress shopping several places with me, even taking off work early to take me to an appointement :D
They watch our girls often, about 3 or 4 times a week for a couple hours so we can get stuff done. They also usually take them a few hours on Saturdays, or when FI and I want to go out at night :)
They are just easy to talk to, fun amazing people.
My Father In Law treats me as his own daughter. I'm not so sure about FI's mother, but I could chill all day with his dad and not feel weird at all. That's something that is really important to me.
Mine are just so loving and supportive! They always ask about me and they joke that there is a phillygirl629 fan club in their family. They love me just for being me and for being a good partner to my FI! And I love when FMIL and FSILs include me on their family emails and even silly chain/joke emails. They really make me feel like part of the family. FI is divorced and I wonder if his ex was just so awful that they are relieved to have me around instead. But whatever the reason, I'll take what I can get! Love 'em.
My FILs are the best. FMIL and I get our nails done together and then go shopping about once a month. She never lets me pay for anything and she buys me and FI gifts for our house all the time. We live two doors down from them and it's really comforting to be able to look out the window and know that if we need anything, they're just a few steps away. FMIL also randomly brings us brownies. How can you not love a woman who delivers chocolate to your front door?
my in-laws are generous with taking us out to dinner when we visit them.
they also send birthday and Christmas cards and presents which are sweet and thoughtful.
@MissMeg: I totally know what you mean! We're not engaged yet, but my FMIL has such great reactions to all of our good news, whereas my mom always under-reacts to everything.
My FMIL makes me care packages, for me and my dog, for every Holiday, Season Change, and big exam :) My FI and I are long distance right now in different Grad progams so she sends us so many cute cards and packages :) Mine include cute pictures of FI when he was little, lots of great kitchen things, and things i love such as pumpkin chocolate chip bread or fudge!
Once a month she also takes me out to tea at the Pond House to catch up ( I get popovers and expresso) but it is a tea house 
She and my mom have a great relationship and sometimes they will even vacation together. She lets my family use her camp in Bar Harbor every summer. She goes out of her way to let me know if I need anything at all she is close by. FI is in NY so right now his family is only about an hour from me compared to 7 hours from him!
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