Post # 1
Lately a lot of money talk has come up with my dad… Mind you were paying for most of the wedding. Christmas eve he brought to our attention ( me and fi) that he wanted to invite extended family… We have gone over keeping it intimate and low key and going to vegas with 30 max guests. Anyway today.. He calls me for details as to how much per head food drinks etc. So he can figure out how much to give us the day of the wedding…and i doubt that he will help. I emailed him details $ 125 pp including alcohol need to cover $4000 minimum Est 30 guests gave him names 12 of our (fi and i) friends the rest family.. All mine mind you with the exeption of his mom. He has offered to pay half of dinner but what good does that do if he keeps inviting extended relatives? Anyone going through this? Does the cost seem about right?
Post # 3
I’m a little confused on the costs and what you want your dad to pay, but the total sounds reasonable for a destination wedding. Did you mean your dad is paying for 50% of everything or just his share of the guests? It’s very generous of your dad to help pay for things like the photographer and your dress.
Why don’t you just ask your dad to pay for the extra guests he wants to invite? That way it’s no extra cost to you guys.
Post # 4
I’m really confused by what you wrote. Your dad is offering to pay for half the wedding or for the cost of the people he wants to invite?
Either way, just tell your dad that you aren’t comforatble with extended family being invited. That you and your FI have made your list together and his family isn’t inviting extended family and neither are you. If he wants to contribute, awesome, but you don’t want to invite more people.
Post # 5
sorry i know its all over the place.. typing on my ipad on weddingbee is tough.
So he is offering to pay for half of dinner the day of the wedding. I just feel like we already are inviting a lot of family for a destination wedding and extended family would bring cost up so half of what we are paying now would be double then because we have more guests even with his help.