Post # 1
I told my Fiance that I’m not preventing pregnancy anymore. Whatever happens will happen.
Backstory, I’ve been with my Fiance 5.5 years, we’ve lived together for 4 years and we kept pushing our wedding date but its finally happening in June because I want kids, well we want kids. He has told me a few times he wants kids but he understood we were not ready. But I am done with school, we both have a stable job, and just got a house and I am not getting any younger (I’m 27).
I figure the wedding is two months away if I wer to get pregnant I wouldn’t show. So we are not actively TTC but if it happened I would not be upset. I have been off the BCP since November because I needed to do the NFP classes required by our church and have been charting for 4 cycles.
So lets see what happens but I am happy that I don’t have to worry about preventing a pregnancy anymore 🙂
Post # 3
Congrats on taking this big step! With that being said have you thought about the possibility of being preggo and feeling sick on your wedding day? That’s the only thing that would make me a little nervous about not waiting until after… Good luck with whatever happens 🙂
Post # 4
@skipper2010: yeah I have thought about that but I know we probably won’t get pregnant on the first try and I will have a good support system to help me with that.
Post # 5
I’m worried about sickness during your wedding for you, too- I was deathly ill (really couldn’t get out of bed except to throw up) from the beginning, weeks 5-18. (You’re usually 4 weeks along at the earliest when you find out- 2 weeks along at the time of ovulation, which is weird and something I didn’t know until I read TCOYF).
Post # 6
Congrats on this big decision! Just know that there are plenty of people that get pregnant the first try, it happened to me! I said the same thing as you, it won’t haven the first month, but here I am almost 3 months pregnant. I’m already married but I’m still in school and let me tell you, the exhaustion is killer! I’ve luckily only had mild nausea so that wasn’t so much a factor. We were also actively TTC. Good luck!
Post # 7
I’ll also throw in my voice regarding morning sickness… I threw up nearly every day from week 6 to week 16, and was nauseated until week 18. I had to go to the ER twice for IV fluids because of dehydration. I was also very bloated from the very beginning – which wouldn’t have worked in my form fitting dress! Just some food for thought! 🙂
But congrats on the big decision! We started TTC on our honeymoon and got pregnant 2 months later because I started charting. WB is a great support system for TTC and pregnancy!
Post # 8
I think that if you and your Fiance both feel like it’s a good time to start TTC then you should go for it! I couldn’t tell by your first sentence, “I told my Fiance that I’m not preventing pregnancy anymore” if he was on board or not. If you’ve been charting for 4 months and know your cycles well, it wouldn’t be unheard of to get pregnant on the first try… much crazier things have happened!
Not to be a downer, but when I got pregnant I could tell right away because my skin broke out SO BAD! I’ve never, EVER had a probem with acne (only two of three pimples in my whole life!) and my chest and shoulders were disgusting! People react differently to the pregnancy hormone, so you might not experiene this, but just keep in mind that your body can do CRAZY things when your hormones shift quickly!
Good luck and keep us up to date!
Post # 9
@eperez21: congrats! but like PP said, you dont want to be sick during the wedding. I was DEATHLY SICK. But that being said, you may not get pregnant by the first try.
Post # 10
Thanks for the words 🙂
Yeah my Fiance has wanted kids for a while but he knew that I had a few things to do before getting prengnant. I was charting for our NFP classes and not havng sex during the fertile window.
I am more worried about not being able to get pregnant because my family has a history of difficulty conceiving and infertility 🙁
Like I mentioned I am not actively TTC which means that I am not going to be pushing for BD during my fertile window but if one night we feel hot and its during that time I won’t stop it.
Post # 11
@eperez21: I wouldn’t start trying til after the wedding, personally. You’re 27, not 34, and 2 more months is so not going to make a difference fertility wise. I had the same concerns as you with fertility, since I have endometriosis and just turned 29, but Darling Husband and I were patient in waiting for the right time to start trying and I’m glad we did.
I have to agree with the other posters though, I was BLOATED by week 6 and seriously just felt FAT all around, not cute baby bump fat either, just fat. My tight clothes immediately didn’t fit right, and part of it is that no one tells you just how CONSTIPATED you’re going to be from pretty much the very start.
I also had all day nausea and petechia around week 8, where I threw up so hard that all the blood vessels in my face broke (no you CAN’T cover this with makeup – I tried) I attached a pic. My advice, try to relax, enjoy looking absolutely stunning at your wedding (before pregnancy starts ruining your body for all time no offense) enjoy the perfect wedding pictures of yourself you’ll want to have to share with your children someday, and a glass of real champagne at your toasts. Start trying on the honeymoon – once you’re preg, you’ll be glad you waited!