We used a wreath of flowers! Our officiant made it by twining flower and herbs onto wire with ribbons. She then twisted it into an infinity sign and we each slipped a hand through half of it and held hands. She then had us recite the traditional vows. It was the last thing we did in our ceremony. I thought it was an awesome, original way to do it. I was set on doing a traditional cord handfasting at first, but she talked me into doing it this way:
Here’s the text of that section of our ceremony:
“It is wonderful to be lovers, sweethearts and friends, but now, today, you will officially and legally wear the most honorable titles that a man and woman ncan bear. You will be husband and wife.
King Solomon, in his great wisdom, said “Let us crown ourselves with rosebuds before they are withered away” and so I did– I gathered my rosebuds and I made this little circle for M and J’s wedding.
In the Victorian language of flowers, white roses mean “I am worthy of you” and they are worthy of each other. Ivy symbolizes fidelity. The baby’s breath is for hope. There is thyme because my husbands says no matter how you spell it, there is never enough of it. The most fragrant herb is rosemary, that’s for rememberance.
The wonderful thing about a circle, whether it be the Christmas wreath on your door, the wedding ring on your hand the circle of the seasons and our lives, is simply this– if you live your lives with love and respect for you heart, for each other and for yourself, the circle becomes infinity (this is where she twisted the wreath into the infinity symbol)- eternity.
J and M, will you join your hands through this infinity symbol created of flowers? (we put our hands through)
You have bound yourselves together by your love, the promises and the rings you have exchanged before family and friends. I bind you now with this small circle of flowers and the legal protection of the laws of Missouri.
Hold fast to that which if good. Hold fast to each other, as if your lives depended on it because they do.
M, protected by J’s strength and devotion to you, may your body, mind, heart and soul blossom in the sunshine of his love.
J, strengthened by M’s confidence in you, by her love and devotionmay you continue to grow in knowledge, wisdom and love for humanity to become a man, husband, father and founder of a fine family- the man that you were intended to be.
Now while you are holding hands, bound only by flowers, will you repeat together the traditional marriage vows so many of us have said before.
(We repeated them in unison)
I, M, take thee J, to be my husband./I, J, take thee M, to be my wife
Form this moment on, do you promise to have and to hold each other alone, will youtake each other for better or worse and for better again? And will you love and care for each other though you be rich or poor? Will you laugh and have good times with each other in your good health and give tender loveing care to each other should that health fail, will you love and cherish each other, all teh days of your lives? Do you intend to remain married and faithful to each other for life?”
We agreed, she took the flowers off and then pronounced us man and wife.
So, it really ended up being an amalgamation of a handfasting and a traditional ceremony. It really was beautiful though, my photogs said it was one of the best ceremonies they had ever seen.