Post # 1
This is probably going to be out of place. But do any of you struggle with your man about sex. ?
Watching movie where the couple make love so passionate makes me want to pull my hair out. Due to the fact that sex in my house is nothing like that.
I am lucky if it lasts at least 5 – 10 min.Unlike some woman I struggle to get where I need to be. So its frustrating. Sometimes I even cry about it.
Sometimes he did finish the job. But now a days he doenst even bother. As soon as He gets what he needs he stands up and goes on with his normal routine.
I have spoken to him about it. But it only lasts once or twice. Then its over. He said the reason he finishes so quickly is because I turn him on to much. I did take it as a complement. And I know he loves me.
But I hate feeling this way. Im starting to believe that he is really selfish and I feel like I don’t want to make love anymore due to the fact that its boom, bam, thank you….
Am I just being stupid and childish or is this realy something to worry about?
Post # 2
You need to talk about it again and you need to make 100% that he knows just how big of an issue this is. And it IS a big issue. If sex wasn’t important to a relationship then no one would care about physical cheating.
Make a rule that once a week (or whatever timeline works for you), the sex has to be all. about. you. Beforehand, make a list of the things he could do for you and how to please you and make sure that you finish. THEN you can have sex together. Or even have a night that is solely about you 100% followed by a night about him 100%.
If he doesn’t take this seriously and doesn’t make an effort to improve. Get a sex therapist. A sex positive therapist who can help you two connect again. If he isn’t willing to make this effort then he IS the selfish asshole he’s appearing to be.
Post # 3
Everdeen: Thx. Think ill talk to him again and make it clear. Just so frustrated.
Post # 4
I agree with PP that you need to discuss this with your partner but you also have realise that the movies and real life are two different things.