Post # 1
I’m sorry if this is TMI, but I really need to know…
Since becoming pregnant, everything feels very different, during hum, ya know.. It’s as if it’s not my own body anymore and I find it difficult to adjust.
I’m one who has always enjoyed intimacy and never, ever had a problem reaching the big O with my husband. But now, even if it’s good, I just can’t seem to get there because everything feels so different.
Am I the only one? How did you adjust to this? Did it get better? And for ladies with babies, does it become normal again, after baby?
Post # 3
From what I’ve read, it should get better. I hope some come on here an reaffirm that.
But I think a lot of it is chalked up to hormones. I know certain birth control pills have the exact same effect, and that is why I am hoping that it will return.
I have also heard it goes through cycles during your pregnancy too. Like sometimes it is awesome and other times you want to push him away from you. Either way, good luck with your situation!
Post # 4
How far along are you? For me, I’ve never enjoyed sex more, I think it’s because there’s more blood flow going to certain areas and it’s just so much more senstive! It does feel a little different, but for me it’s better. You will probably start to enjoy it more soon!
Post # 5
UGH. Thinking about sex now, this second, I couldn’t be more disgusted by the idea. But, earlier this morning I was feeling really frisky. I go through cycles. Before I even missed my period we had sex and things felt… different. I knew right then I was pregnant. Your body definitely changes and you just gotta go with it.
Post # 6
@amandagrace731: I’m 8 weeks along… I am more sensitive too, but it’s like, too sensitive. We had a perfect balance before.
Post # 7
I was reeeeeaaaaallly ticklish 1st trimester. He couldnt hug me and rub my arm without me giggling because it tickled so much. Made things interesting but he figured out how to deal with the changes, and when he didnt he dealt with the giggles. It went away 2nd trimester.
Post # 8
The whole pregnacy with my youngest I wasnt even interested in sex… It got worse the farther along i got…. Its normal. Some people want to have sex more some dont BUT pregnacy changes sex during and after… atleast it did with me
Post # 9
My 1st trimester, I wanted sex ALL THE TIME! Even more than usual. 2nd trimester…it depends on the day and it scares me. I have loved sex for 10yrs now(I was 19 my 1st time, not creepy,LOL) and this is the 1st time I’ve been iffy on if I want sex. I constantly worry if it will be like this after the baby is born and I pray I still want it. I hope it’s just because of my belly.
Post # 10
I’m currently 25 weeks along. Some friends I know told me that they got more into it as time went on, but I have had the opposite experience. I have zero libido right now. Hoping it changes soon!
Post # 11
hmm I was just flipped from your situation. I felt all the same during my pregnancy… minus the big belly of course,and felt different after the baby was born.. But yes you do get back into it. And it will come natural for you again!! You may feel different bc I have read in my books etc that when you are pregnant your lady parts get more engorged with blood making them bigger.. like the lips and such. This could be whats causeing the different feelings for you. Just try not to think about the difference and think about how awesome it feels etc. Your mind goes a million and ten miles an hour when your pregnant when you are in the bedroom (or wherever else lol) Just be in that moment it will help. Also think of it like your last moments of life just being you two always enjoy eachothers company!! Pretty soon you will be a little family and your life will shift a little. Congrats on your pregnancy!! Its so exciting to be a mommy!!! 🙂
Post # 12
I think it’s so different for every woman. I heard so much about how women become ravenous 15 year old boys during pregnancy, and especially in the second trimester. (Anyone remember thatFriends episode where Phoebe steals the Evander Hollyfield cut out? Or the one where Racheal is super horny and Pheobe tries to set her up with a virgin?) All lies for me. I think my husband was very diappointed. 🙂
But after the baby was born, things got better. A LOT better; better than pre-pregnancy, I think.
Post # 13
@mommytobee: I was totally uninterested (but still participated) in my first trimester. I wasn’t sick or anything, I just wasn’t feeling it. But literally the first day of my second trimester, that completely changed! Now I’m enjoying it just as much (if not more) than before. So hang in there – things could change!
Post # 14
I would say for me so far it has been pretty normal/business as usual, but i did not have morning sickness during the first trimester so that could be why. My DH waits for my cues, which sometimes to me feels like more work, being pregnant and all i would like to be swept off my feet lol.
Post # 15
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You’re not alone! Preggo sex just sucks for me. My desire has totally crashed, I can’t get in the mood, even when my husband is being super sweet with the whole foreplay bit. The act itself has gotten uncomfortable, even painful at times, because of all the shifting from my insides. Blech. And now that I’m at 26 weeks, my belly is huge and positions are really difficult to figure out. So, basically I try to avoid it whenever possible. And luckily my husband has been very understanding, which I greatly appreciate!
Post # 16
@octobermom: My DH waits for my cues, which sometimes to me feels like more work, being pregnant and all i would like to be swept off my feet lol.
This is my SO. I know he wants to make sure I want it, but dang man, I got this belly up here that I have to watch out for and I gotta start stuff too. Too much work!LOL