Post # 1
Ok ladies I’m about to spill WAY to much info about my sex life but at this point I just need some tips/advice. So here goes…….
Previous to pregnancy Darling Husband and I have had a very good sex life. At times it was routine but always good. We both like it semi “rough” not in a “OUCH” way but in more of a “Roudy” way if that makes sense. Both of our favorite position was cowgirl and for me to reach O I had to lean down and do some things that I think are to private to share ;). Now that my belly is ever growing the only way I can reach O no longer works. My stomach gets smoosed and it is just plain awkward to even attempt. Also cowgirl has been weird to do because I just feel sort of weird about my bump just hanging out there. I guess that’s more of a self concious issue. Missonary also doesn’t work because if I lay on my back to long I feel alot of pressure and it hurts. Doggie style is out because we both hate that position. It doesn’t feel good for me and has always been to much. Spooning sort of works at this point but we can’t really get going in the roudy way we like so it’s just meh sex.
So my question is to you pregnant bees and previously pregnant bees how are you doing it? What is working for you?
I would also like to add I am super short 5 1″ so anything involving me standing doesn’t work out very well and the main issue with my belly getting smooshed on Darling Husband while doing cowgirl is becaue my legs are so short. We’ve tried pillows and that failed.
Post # 3
weellll, I am also pregnant (baby #2) and the only position that really “works” for me is to lay on my back with my husband kind of laying perpendicular to me on his side. 1 of my legs between his, the other kind of slung over his hip. We end up kind of looking like a “T” haha. also, we like to bring vibrators into the mix (esp. when I’m pregnant) and it really works out for me this way pretty much every time. I hope this is helpful, I know it’s kind of hard to picture though.
Post # 4
Reverse the cowgirl and you should be able to get there. You’d still be feeling/seeing your belly, but at least it wouldn’t seem as awkward. Have your man spread his legs a bit and you’ll have space under your belly for manual stimulation.
Post # 5
Nothing worked for us. We had sex maybe 4 times in my entire pregnancy, only one of which was after I started showing. Darling Husband was weirded out by it and it was incredibly uncomfortable for me, not to mention that I had ZERO sex drive.
Post # 6
@blondemotives: I love your description! Awesome.
Have you tried end of the bed with your legs down with him standing in front of you? 🙂
Post # 7
Reverse cowgirl works for us too. Then your belly won’t get smushed on Darling Husband, it will just fall in between his legs.
At 36 weeks pregnant and measuring 41 weeks, I am surprised to say we’re still having sex probably 3 times per week. We had a little rough patch where I felt disconnected, but we got back to a good place. What’s working for us now is for me to actually put pillows under my hips so that I am at an angle. It felt funny at first, but now it allows for plenty of contact on my lady parts as well.
Post # 9
@dynamic_duo: Yes he tries but it is just something I don’t really enjoy and never have :/ I wish I did though! It would make O so much easier.
Post # 10
I’m 29 weeks and love pregnancy O’s 🙂 but the only way I can achieve it is by having Darling Husband use toys (vibrators) on me…I haven’t been able to get it from my normal position for quite awhile now. It still feels amazing, but I miss that closeness. As for positioning, we normally do doggy or spooning. Definitely going to try pillows after PPs suggestions.
Post # 11
@MarryMeTiffany: it probably would! if you are not enjoying it, then it means he is not doing it right. might be worth re-exploring and guiding him a little. i never got to O that way with anyone in my life until Darling Husband…i had given up on it being possible, but now it is a must almost every time we have sex!
*blushing now because that is about the most Too Much Information i have yet to give on the bee!*
Post # 12
@dynamic_duo: I’ve actually never liked it and this is a Too Much Information but I have had a few more then just Darling Husband try it. It’s really a mental thing for me. The entire time it is happening I’m thinking about odd things that suddenly matter like do my legs look fat, I hope my va-jay-jay hair isn’t prickly (from shaving), eeek what if I accidently fart lol. I just can’t get into it. I do like finger stimulation maybe I will have him do that to get to O.
@CEtoSAHM: I haven’t used a vibrator since I met Darling Husband but we may have to give it a try.
Post # 13
@MarryMeTiffany: I think the same things when Darling Husband goes down south….
He wants to do it way more than I allow him to, and I even O from it! But I just can’t get outta my own head.
Post # 14
Towards the end of the pregnancy, everything becomes more difficult. Even things which seem so easy (sex & sleep) are difficult. I would definitely try the reverse cowgirl like PP’s suggested. As well as toys and manual stimulation for you and anything you are willing to do for him 😉 It is just one of those joys of those long 40 weeks lol!! But SOO worth it in the end. I could handle many sexual positions after like 25-30 weeks. It was actual the first time we were successful at the whole “spooning” position lol!! It wont last forever and there are alot of option out there. Play around 🙂 Good luck!!