(Closed) Let's Talk PRENUPS

posted 6 years ago in Money
  • poll: Are you signing a Prenup?
    Yes, both me and FI agree : (25 votes)
    10 %
    Yes, I want my FI to sign a prenup : (6 votes)
    2 %
    Yes, my FI wants me to sign a prenup : (6 votes)
    2 %
    No, we don't agree with signing prenups : (162 votes)
    64 %
    No, he would like me to but I won't : (1 votes)
    0 %
    No, I would like him to but he won't : (5 votes)
    2 %
    Haven't decided yet : (20 votes)
    8 %
    Other (explain) : (29 votes)
    11 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    4327 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 1992

    @Petite_Fraise:  Does this exclude posthumous circumstances? I’d not be comfortable with signing that away. 

    Post # 4
    Member
    1925 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    My FI and I are both students with lots of debt.  Neither of us have anything to protect with a prenup.  However, if we had unequal incomes prior to getting married, we probably would get one.

    Post # 6
    Member
    4275 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    We don’t believe in it.

    Post # 7
    Member
    452 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    I voted I want him to sign one and he wont. I still have a fair amount of student debt that I’m in the process of paying off. I want him to sign one so he doesn’t get saddled with my debt. He doesn’t want to at all. He see’s my debt as his responsability once we’re married, even if something were to happen to me.

    Post # 8
    Member
    526 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I will most certainly be making more than FI (in a few years) but he will someday get a hefty inheritance, which I won’t. Ultimately, though, it is not about who will earn/inherit. I want to sign one to protect HIM because I will be physician, and if I ever get sued (which WILL happen, no matter how good I am, because of my specialty) I don’t want them coming after his money. He feels that signing one is like admitting that one of us will cheat, but I think that is silly and childish. Infidelity leading to divorce is not the only reason to sign a prenup, right ladies?

    Post # 9
    Member
    5921 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: December 2010

    We didn’t need one, but I would not have been opposed to signing one if it we had needed it. 

    Post # 10
    Member
    5428 posts
    Bee Keeper

    My mom wants us to sign a prenup… My mom and I own a house together and she owns property in Florida and her condo here, so she doesn’t want my FI to get anything if I die after her. She wants it all to go to my son. 

    Which is logical and reasonable. But I do not like prenups, to me after marriage everything should be divided equally no matter what. (yes, I am old-fashioned LOL)

    Post # 12
    Member
    3886 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    Fi’s first marriage didn’t end well and he doesn’t want to risk re-living the dividing of assets and debts; on the flip side, I own the home we live in, or at least the bank owns it but I bought many years ago and have built a lot of equity, and I have quite a few investments. We truly feel we’re going to be together forever, but on that .000001% chance we’re not, it will eliminate a lot of stress and heartache to have this already sorted.

    Post # 13
    Member
    955 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2014

    We contemplated signing one (I got the whole “when two families of means join together” talk from my dad) however we decided against it. I understand the logic, but it’s just not for us.

    Post # 14
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    485 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I’m an “other”…. I am in the final stages of buying my first home, and we marry 2 months after.  FI is not putting any money into the house because he’s still paying down some debts, so it’s truly my house that I’ve been saving for years to buy.  I want the house to be mine if anything goes wrong.  I’d hate to have to sell it and divvy everything up, that would just add to the stress and heartache.

    However, we haven’t really discussed any of this yet. I was just kind of assuming he knows it’s my house, but maybe he does believe it’s half his after marriage.  *sigh* Deep convo coming up!

    Post # 15
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    11234 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @capergrrl:  I should have voted the same way you did. I have a bunch of student loan debt, and he has retirement funds, etc., and I told him that I think we should do one to keep those separated. Nope, he doesn’t want to because it’ll be our debt and our retirement fund. He doesn’t have student loan debt, lucky guy.

    Post # 16
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    3357 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I voted Other. My DH and I did not sign a prenup not because we didn’t believe in or agree with them … but we didn’t see the point in them. I’m fresh outta college, he’s been outta college not that much longer, neither of us have assets that we feel are worth protecting from the other.

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