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My exhusband got snipped after we had three children and it worked like a charm. He was back to work the next day and I didn't have to worry about BC. After we divorced, he got remarried and had it reversed, and they now have a baby girl, so if you decide to have children of your own and don't want to adopt, you should be able to.
My FI and I have a 14 month old daughter and we decided before she was even born that one was enough for us, so when she was about 2 months old he went and had the procedure done. Was sore for 2-3 days and was fine after that. It takes about 2 months for all the semen that's in the tubes to be fully "flushed" out, which I didn't know! So for about 2 months after the procedure, you'll still need to use a backup method of birth control. He'll go give a sperm sample at about 8 weeks post-procedure and they'll test it to see if there's any viable sperm in it- if not, you're given the all clear, and if there are, you're told to wait a little longer and give another sample. Easiest procedure ever, and after insurance I think we only paid like $80. If you definitely don't want any children, I highly recommend it- it's so much easier than paying $40 every month for birth control and having to take it everyday.
If you are 100% sure you don't want kids, or are ok with not having biological children, then fine. While reversals do happen, they don't always, and it can be expensive (insurance doesn't pay). Have you considered a copper IUD? It has no effect on your sex drive, lasts for 10 years, and if you change your mind, it's not a problem.
I also have a mirena that has decreased my sex drive, but FH and I do want kids in a few years. We have discussed changing to the copper IUD, but I am trying to avoid it since my body seems to have a long adjustment period to IUDs, and trying to do other things to "get me in the mood." (Sorry if TMI)
@guitargirl: This is actually my second Mirena. For both, during the insertion process, I passed out from the pain and had a seizure. (I thought the first time was a fluke, which is why I was willing to try again.) Based on my apparently exquisitely sensitive cervix, I'm very unenthusiastic about the idea of yet another IUD insertion.
@redherring: Did they numb your cervix first? If not, that would be an option. I think either option is fine; I have seen several women who had their tubes tied or partners had vasectomies who are upset later when they realized they could have done the copper IUD. If that's not you, then go call the urologist. Good luck!
I told DH that him having a vasectomy down the road would be awesome....My mom told me that after she had both my brother and I and they KNEW they were done, my dad had one, too, just so they could avoid any accidental pregnancies.
my SO's cousin's husband got a vasectomy in his 20's because they absolutely knew they didn't want to have kids. It works for them!!
@guitargirl: Prior to both insertions, I took pain medication, on the recommendation of my doctor. Needless to say, it didn't work. Even when I had the first one removed, that hurt A LOT. Maybe I'll ask about numbing my cervix when my current IUD is removed.
My dad got a vasectomy almost immediately after I was born (two complicated pregnancies, a healthy boy and girl - he wasn't putting my mom through another pregnancy.) My mom wanted more kids, so they did foster care for several years (and my mom wants to do it again once one of them retires.) 25 years later, they're still happy with the decision.
My FI got one last summer. We both do not want children (I am 25, he's a year older) but we are not telling others about this decision. When other people ask I just say that I don't want kids ever and they say, "You'll see...you'll have 3." Ugh! The procedure itself wasn't bad, my FI was given some sort of valium drug via IV and then I was invited into the recovery room after. He played video games for 2 days and put ice on his guys but after that he was fine, we had sex about 5 days later?
If you aren't 100% sure though, I'd try other birth control options.
My FH got one last year and I held his hand a watched the proceedure. We had a great doctor who does all three ways (which I really appreciated), cut, clipped, and cauterized. Best decision we have ever made. (We have older children).
We have thought about this, but due to the fact that I hate having my period, we are still using bc. I am on nuvaring, and only get my period 2 or 3 times a year. I would love to never ever get it again, but unfortunately can't get a voluntary hysterectomy...
My fiance and I are 30 and 28 respectively, have no kids and never want them. We were going to do the vasectomy with a Mirena backup because vasectomies, can, very rarely, fail. But when I went in for that, I found out that I had to have a hysterectomy due a really enlarged uterus and fibroids (ah ha!! the reason for all my pain and problems). We had already scheduled the vasectomy, and he had it the DAY I found out about the fact that I was having a hysterectomy. He wasn't upset and is glad he had it done just in case my insurance said no to surgery since I am young (it took him four months to get into the office for an appointment). He loves the fact that we can be intimate with no worries (though being that we're both sterile, it's really easy not to worry haha).
He was sore for a couple days. I think he wore a jock strap for about a week or two. The cost must vary, because although part of FI's was covered by insurance, we still payed about $375. Also, the doctor told us that while some of these are reversible, do NOT count on that as an option. (though since you want no kids, no problem for you!! :)) He took a valium before hand and they numbed him locally and he was fine...just a little goofy from the valium. It will make things so much more spontaneous...I say DO IT!!
I'm reviving this thread because it's relevant to my interests. I'm looking into having a vasectomy in a couple years.
Any other stories anyone wants to share?
My first husband absolutely refused to have a vasectomy and pushed me to have my tubes tied because he didn't want any more children (after 2 conceptions on birth control) and now I'm cutting my wedding budget to get a jump start on the $8,000 it will cost to reverse my surgery so I can have more children.
But, I'm all for surgical birth control, it makes life SO much easier. You don't have to remember to take anything. It doesn't ruin the spontaneity by having to grab protection. It doesn't have a risk of uncomfortable side effects like using spermicide. For couples who don't want children in the future, it's a great option.
@MeAndDubby: Did he have a legit reason for having you do the precedure vs him? Getting tubes tied is much more invasive and dangerous - I think it would cause serious marital problems if my husband were to force me to have major surgery when he could have a simple outpatient procedure...
@crayfish: He was denied time off to have it done (military rules and all ya know). But the truth was, his gf didn't know if she wanted to have kids or not. I didn't find out about her until after my surgery. I almost want to send him a bill for my reversal.
My fiance got a vasectomy about 3 months ago and he had a very quick recovery. He told me for like the first day or two after the surgery, it felt like he was continuously getting kicked in the balls, but it was very worth it since we won't have to worry about birth control for the rest of our lives. Since we're from Pittsburgh as well, we can recommend a good urologist to you. His name is Dr. Cercone and he has an office in Mercy Hospital. He does the surgery in Wexford though. My fiance said he was very nice and made him feel comfortable.
Hubs and I are 28 with no kids and we never want any. I just got a Mirena IUD a month ago. We'll revisit vasectomy in 5 years when my Mirena needs to come out, but I may end up getting Mirena again. I've been on hormonal birth control for 11 years and I'm really used to light, easy periods.
A good friend of mine had a tubal ligation a few years ago. Although she's very happy with it, she strongly encouraged us to go with the vasectomy (if faced with tubal v. vasectomy decision).
FI's brother got a vasectomy back in April, and aside from having to pee more often than usual for a couple of days afterward, he's had no other 'problems'. Pretty quic recovery.
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Does anyone out there have a significant other who's been snipped? My husband and I do not want children. If we eventually change our minds, we're fine adopting. I hate remembering to take any form of short-term birth control, so we're only considering long-term contraceptives. I currently have the Mirena IUD and my sex drive is essentially nonexistent. I'd like to have the IUD removed and my husband is definitely willing to have a vasectomy (especially if the IUD removal causes my sex drive to come back!), but I'd like to hear about people's experiences before a doctor becomes acquainted with a rather personal anatomical area.