Let's try something scary…

posted 2 years ago in Weddingbee
Post # 3
Member
42490 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

KatiePi:  I have to laugh every time I see an appeal (or directive depending on how you look at it) like this.

Please leave out any name-calling and keep it civil. 

Do you seriously think that your telling everyone in the playground to “play nice” is going to make a difference.

It doesn’t work with kids and it won’t work with the internet.

I realize you have good intentions but opening a thread with a lecture somehow doesn’t work for me.

WeddingBee has Terms of Service. If you see them being violated, flag the post and let the Mods take care of it.

Post # 5
Member
599 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

FI and I are childless atm, and because we’re a gay couple we need to have IVF to conceive. We plan on using her eggs and my uterus, and then my eggs and her uterus, along with a sperm donor to have children. This way, it feels like our children will be fully ours, which of course they will be anyway but I hope you understand what I mean. I’m hoping we’ll have at least one child within the next five years

Post # 7
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1107 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

KatiePi:  FI and I are CBC, at least currently. I think at my age (33) I have my mind pretty made up but have told him if he really wants to procreate, he will have to make a decision in about a year and a half – which will be our wedding date. He is 30. I always thought that the “biological clock” would go off and I’d totally be down for that ride. It just never did. I find children mostly repulsive though some of them have their moments (basically family relations). And of course, with anyone, when it’s your own, it’s completely different. So, that being said, I’m totally willing to try it once for him (god forbid I’d get pregnant with twins or more!! It’d be nuts!) as I think we would actually be good parents, despite what it sounds like above! I’m no perfect 50’s housewife mom, nor is he the perfect TV dad, but I think we’d be damn good at bringing a well educated, independant person into the world. I’m honest about it, and no one has to like or agree with it.

Post # 9
Member
1107 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

KatiePi:  My bad, I wasn’t sure of the baby fever-term-specifics lol. Either way, we currently have no kids, just cats, and for now, we’re totally cool with that! We are looking at October/Early November of 2015 to be married.

Post # 11
Member
1201 posts
Bumble bee

We’ve always wanted kids and we are currently childless but TTC. We found out recently I may suffer from PCOS and I’ve been devastated over that but we are open to the idea of adoption through the foster care system so I’m starting to look into that option as well.

Post # 12
Member
10491 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2011

KatiePi:  Why is someone who is certain they want children considered childfree, but someone who isn’t sure yet, or just doesn’t want them yet considered childless?

 

Using the narrow definitions, I am CBC for now.  I’m getting to the point where the probability of that changing is getting fairly small.

Post # 14
Member
1201 posts
Bumble bee

KatiePi:  I’m pretty sure I have seen it and may have commented but haven’t been active yet.  I was just told this past Friday 6/20/14 and she’s pretty sure but not 100%.  It does fit with a lot of problems I do have.

Post # 15
Member
2455 posts
Buzzing bee

KatiePi:  FI and I are CBC (choice) because neither of us have a parental bone in our bodies. We don’t like children and don’t see the appeal. I won’t list all the reasons we don’t want children because I can honestly say there isn’t ONE reason we would have children.

I think not wanting a child is reason enough to not have one. I don’t think it would be fair to the child to have one just so there will be someone to take care of you when you’re old (not guarenteed anyway) or because you feel you’re “supposed to”. We just don’t want any and that’s that.

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